Goals the SMART way.

This is just something I learned yesterday and had to share with you all … Enjoy!

In life, we are told to set goals so we can measure our successes by conquering our goals and setting new targets. Its not just about setting goals. We need to set SMART goals, smart being:
S: Specific
We need to set specific goals. Your goal should be ‘I want to lose 20 pounds’ not ‘I want to lose weight’ or ‘I’m putting myself on a budget of N1000 per week’ not ‘I want to stop spending too much money’. I’m sure by now you get the drift. So when setting goals, set specific goals.
M: Measurable
Next your goals should be measurable. You should set goals in which you can track your success. If you can measure your progress, you’re motivated to keep on going. Therefore your goals should be such that you can measure your progress.
A: Attainable
Set goals that are attainable. If a goal is not reached, then there is a great blow to one’s self-esteem. Also if its not likely to be achieved, there really is no motivation there so make sure that goals you set can be achieved.
R: Realistic
There’s a difference between a ‘dream’ and a ‘goal’. A dream involves mostly imagination, wishful thinking and a large dose of hope but a goal should be realistic. You may wish to walk on the sun someday and hope for that but you don’t set a goal towards walking on the sun. Your goals are tailored according to your environment and according to your situation in which case you must make your goals as realistic as possible.
T: Time Bound
Set a time limit for goals. The pressure of time works as extra fuel for our resolve. When we have deadlines to get work done, we are often extra motivated. In other words, set a deadline for achieving your goals.

That’s it!!! Setting goals the smart way. Hope you learned from it …. Have a great day!!!


29th January 2012

“One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory”
– Rita Mae Brown

Hello everyone. Hope you’re having a great week so far (that’s just been a few hours though :D). This week, remember that it is necessary to forget. This is just to say that, sometimes we need to forget or give a back seat to some of our past experiences. We also need to learn to forgive people who’ve hurt us in the past. Forgiveness does not mean we should let our guard down completely and keep letting ourselves get hurt but it means we shouldn’t shut people out. So this week, try within reason to have a bad memory. Have a great week!!!

Love I

There’s a book called ‘The Five Love Languages‘ that I heard about today and I can’t complete my post until I read it but here’s what I think anyway:

There are different love languages hence the title. Four of them are:
• Gifts • Sweet words • Touching • Quality time
They are pretty self – explanatory. People have different ways of expressing love and different forms of love they respond to. If Miss A feels like gifts are a way to express your love for her, she won’t pay much attention to your little compliments though Miss B loved it when you did that.
Advice: When you’re dealing with people, try and figure out what they like and how they respond to situations. Knowing people’s love languages is key to getting people to trust you. Do not abuse this privilege though. “Often it takes one person to create a friendship” and the basic thing we’re lacking in today’s world is communication and this is mainly due to lack of trust. So if in small decisions and minute situations, we learn to use our knowledge of love languages to gain people’s trust and open lines of communication, most conflicts would be averted. I’m not sure I totally understand what I’m saying right now but I’ll hold off until I actually read the book.
Therefore in the fashion of a typical Nollywood movie …. “WATCH OUT FOR PART II!!!”

Life’s what you make it!!!

According to Hannah Montana, “Life’s what you make it so let’s make it rock.”
You decide what happens to you and how you react to situations not anyone else. Whatever happens in your life 95% of the time is as a result of your choices – your decisions and your decisions are always based on how you view life.
When the stakes are down, in the words of Mark Twain, “Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” We all know the story of the glass of water – the optimist sees it half full and the pessimist sees it half empty. So given the same ‘glass of water’, we can view it from two different angles.
W. Mitchell para phrased: “Its not what happens to you in life that matters, its what you do about it” so not to sound cliche but when life gives you lemons, make some lemonade.
To succeed in life you need to be proactive and take responsibility for your life. Stop playing the victim role all the time because being a victim means you react to situations around you and not create situations for your advancement in life. I read in a book that there are only a few things you can control ~ yourself, your attitude, your choices and your responses!!! Just four things but these can make all the difference in the world. Elaine Maxwell has rightly said that “Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force.”
In other words, don’t be a spectator in life. Look for situations you need and if you can’t find them, create them. Don’t let things ‘happen’ to you. Go out and ‘happen’ to things! Sometimes while you’re so busy being either the pessimist, the optimist or the realist, the opportunist grabs what’s in front of you all and moves on.
One last thing – A friend recently brought this to my attention: Psalm 23:5 “Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of my enemies ….” not the verse but his interpretation of the verse. He believes that from this statement, he needs his enemies for God to promote him. That’s just to say that his enemies are not there to bring him down but because they are there, its an ‘excuse’ for God to send him extra blessings. That’s what I’d call positive thinking.
– Bondess007™


Check out Glass Half Full or Half Empty as well!

22nd January 2012

‘Your calling knows only one number to dial – its up to you to answer’
– Marshawn Evans

What you are destined to do is your destiny but I guess everyone knows that. We need to try and find out, try and discover our purpose in life because it is OURS and ours only. Be sensitive to the spirit of God and to situations around you. In everything you do everyday, you’re moving one step closer to an ultimate purpose. The question is ‘Is it yours?’