Our next guest write in is @Ms_Symiee!!! She is one person I admire – young yet full of wisdom. She just started blogging a while back and I’m enjoying her blog so far … Read this and there’s a link to her blog at the end! Enjoy!!!
What is happiness?
There are many words and emotions that I feel are very subjective.
If I ask 10 people what they think love is, I will likely get 10 different answers. I think the same applies to happiness.
Happiness, as we use it in conversation, is usually a goal or state we want to be in. The problem is that usually we can’t be concrete as to what that goal state looks like. We say we want to be happy but we don’t know what that is.
When we use the word happiness this way it is nearly impossible to find it. If you can’t clearly define a goal, then you can’t clearly define the steps to achieving that goal. It is in this way that happiness is very bad for our health. We set ourselves up to fail.
When I am down I often lament, “I just want to feel happy.” But what does happiness feel like?
Am I asking for an endless bliss like euphoria? Most people know that’s unrealistic
What am I saying? Here are some examples from my own life:
I just want to be happy = I am sick and want to feel better
I just want to be happy = I really need to treat myself to a movie or some french fries
I just want to be happy = I want more money
Laugh with me as you see that in the above examples, happiness could mean just about anything! I am sure you can think of some examples in your own life.
Happiness is harmful when we define it very loosely. When we say we want happiness and yet don’t take the time to identify what we really want, we go around in circles, like a ship with just one oar, or we become paralyzed.
“All things being equal, an object at rest, stays at rest.”
When we define what our need or want is we can then figure out how to get to it.
Instead of waiting for the universe to surprise us with sudden happiness, we take charge of our lives. When we know what we want, we can plan to get it. When we are empowered and we work towards a goal and achieve it, I’d say that’s something to be happy about.
The key to happiness is knowing what you want and finding a way to get from A to B.
The other key to happiness is knowing when we are being unrealistic about life, our circumstances, and other people. When this happens, we need to pull up deep from our inner creative beings, and realign to a goal that is more manageable.
I look forward to more posts about things that can aid us in our lives to achieve goals and growth. When we learn about gratitude, forgiveness, patience, unconditional love, and we find a way to awaken our soul through spirituality, we are learning about things that will impact our life in a happy way.