Hehehe! Okay everyone … Here’s what I promised in yesterday’s post! 🙂
I was listening to Myles Munroe’s ‘Maximising Your Singleness’ the other day and I realised that most people don’t really understand what it means to be single. We believe that:
Singleness = Unmarried = Incomplete = Unhappy
I know at this point most of us would have started disagreeing and concluded that this is nonsense but humour me for a few minutes.
‘Why do most people rush into relationships with the first available person?’
‘Why do most people out of relationships (especially the girls) do whatever possible to make potential partners notice them?’
‘Why are most people willing to do whatever it takes, no matter how much they have to compromise on their standards, to keep their partners?’
These are just a few questions we should ask ourselves to catch a glimpse of how obsessed the society is with pairing.
‘Single’ is separate, unique and whole!
Separate means different and distinct, viewed as a unit apart or by itself – here’s the only part we acknowledge – not joined or united with others.
Unique refers to something that is the only one of its kind, unlike anything else.
Whole is complete or entire.
Let’s put them together:
Single can be defined as a different and distinct entity, the only one of its kind, complete or entire viewed as a unit apart or by itself unlike anything else and usually not joined or united with others.
One major misconception in this life is looking for the right person instead of being the right person. Most people strive to be ‘paired’ that they forget to be single first. You know what amazes me most? You can’t be paired if you’re not whole – People don’t get that. Check this out:
If you’re a fraction, say 2/3. You meet a whole – that’s 1 and you’re supposed to form a pair, 2.
2/3 + 1 = 12/3
The union is never complete. At this stage, you’re trying to manage 12/3 so you can’t focus on building the fraction to make 2 but while you’re still ‘not joined’, it’s easier to build your 1 and become the right person ready to be paired.
Someone once said that our major problem in this generation is that we live in a fast track world – We want everything NOW!
In preparing to be the right person however, we invest more in our bodies than our minds forgetting that it takes more to sustain a relationship than our bodies. The funny part of it all is that in investing in our bodies, today’s society has somewhat accepted trashy for classy. Classy always has been ‘stylish AND sophisticated’.
Maximize your singleness, use it to develop your wholeness.
Don’t just pick someone out because they are available.
Be picked out because you are the picture of godly person.
Singleness is not a status but a quality of life.
The quality of a thing is determined by the time spent on it so to improve your quality …
Depend on God and allow Him lead you – when you need help, stop and ask Him for directions!
One more thing – remember that SINGLE is not ALONE. Man is a social being and therefore needs people around him. We need relationships just as ships relate with one another – We need to share our cargo with each other because we don’t carry all we need. Therefore do not be isolated or solitary. Use your singleness to find your purpose.