Posted in Guest Write-Ins, Musings

Meeting The Rock

I thought I knew this idiom pretty well. A stitch in time saves nine right? That kinda means it’s better to sew that little hole in your dress so you won’t have a big hole.
Well, I learnt the lesson another way today. A stitch in time saves nine and two hundred naira (excluding time/money to fix the eventual tear).
Okay I’ll give a brief back story – I got on a bike (commercial transport motorcycle) in order to get where I was going faster. On getting there, I started to get off the bike and pay the guy and we both heard ‘tsssssssssss’ – the sound of a tear. My slit was officially lengthened. I got off thinking I could manage it until I turned the skirt and saw the extent of the tear. I just tapped the bike man to take me back home so I could change.
I spent an extra N200 because of this and I was late too but if I fixed it when the slit started to thread, I’d have avoided the issue. Hence a stitch in time saves ….
The main purpose of this post is dealing with Procrastination. It is a deadly habit that has cost some people very precious opportunities. It still boils down to being intentional about your life as well. You know what you want to do and you do it on time. Don’t leave till tomorrow what you can do today. Anyway I promised the concluding part of Rockie’s story today so here it is.

The Rock: Hey dear

Rockie: Please don’t call me dear, I don’t know you

The Rock: Yes, you are right, you don’t know me. That’s why I am here to introduce myself.

Rockie: Okay, tell me something I don’t know

The Rock: I love you with an ineffable love

Rockie: Ugh, just stop there! Everyone says that and ironically they all never mean it. Please, just spare me!

The Rock: Everyone isn’t me; I am that I am. I am Love.

Rockie: Ha-ha, you are Love? Really? Interesting! What else are you?

The Rock: I am also Consuming Fire

Rockie: Hmm, fire, I like… So Man is hot… he-he…

The Rock: Well, I am not Man, I am Spirit

Rockie: uhuh, scary…

The Rock: not scary, just Omnipresent

Rockie: Err, what does that mean?

The Rock: It means I am everywhere, I am also Omniscient and Omniancient

Rockie: Okay… Since you are everywhere, this one you are here now, why are you? Don’t you have something better to do? Someone who deserves the attention?

The Rock: I am because I love you, and you are the most important person to me. Haven’t you heard I am a reckless lover? I leave 99 precious things just to search and save one. You are the apple of my eyes.

Rockie: I don’t like apples

The Rock: It’s a figure of speech, it means you are precious and I won’t let anything hurt you

Rockie: Hurt? Please don’t get me started on that. I exist in hurt

The Rock: Everything exists because I am. Trust me, I feel all your hurt and pain. I am here and would always be here for you. I would never leave you…

Rockie: Hmm, so much words from one person, who are you??

The Rock: I am the Trinity, I am the Beginning and the End, I am the Lion and the Lamb, I am the One who is, who was, and who would be, I am the Creator, I am the Undefeated Warrior, I am the Redeemer, I am the one true God, I am Jehovah, I am Yahweh, I am the Rock…

‘Sola ‘Biyi

I’ll see you guys in the next post,


Posted in Guest Write-Ins, Musings

Meet Rockie

I’ve been feeling a lot stressed lately – like super stressed. I’ve been feeling like I have too much to do but so little time. I know some of you are probably thinking ‘story of my life’.

Well, it’s not like I was complaining, I mean I could balance it all if I didn’t feel like I was being called out on the little things I didn’t manage to get to doing or if I didn’t feel so much pressure to deliver at all cost.

I think I just felt like I was being taken for granted – I was emotionally drained, mentally drained and physically drained.

Anyway one thing I eventually learnt (I’ve been learning it over time though) is the fact that usually the pressure I feel is created by me. Let me explain that – You see some people say I have ‘mummy tendencies’ and I probably do, so I try to help people and then sometimes they start to expect the help as the norm. The amazing thing is that if I said I was done, they’d probably understand but I never can bring myself to the I’m done point.

Don’t get me wrong. Pressure isn’t bad in itself. It’s sometimes the fuel I need to get up off my fat ass and do something but it’s important to strike a balance (remember balance isn’t about apportioning equal but appropriate time and importance). That is why I’m learning to say ‘No’ sometimes now.

Today’s post is to introduce you to someone – first name Rock, last name Bottom. Here’s her story:

Rockie the Bottom Girl

Hi, my name is Rock, although I prefer Rockie. My last name is hilarious; you just ask Gru’s minions they can’t say it with a straight face. I can’t even say it with a straight face!

You may have encountered me in your life time …

Or rather, you would encounter me, yah, I’m awesome like that!

Without me, some people don’t and won’t attain their peak, by the way, not peak milk 🙄
Ironically, some people encamp in my forte, I must admit, I’m a delightful host.

‘Sola ‘Biyi

Rockie’ll be back next post. Have an amazing week and make sure you go get you PVC (Permanent Voters Card) if you’re Nigerian in Nigeria.


Posted in Finding you in God's word, Guest Write-Ins, Holiday Levels!!!

Love One-Four 16.13

In case you missed the last posts:

Love is Patient

Love Is Kind

Love does not envy

Love does not boast

Love is not proud

Love does not dishonor others

Love is not self-seeking

Love is not easily angered

Love keeps no record of wrongs

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth

Love always protects

Love always trusts

‘… always hopes …’

We’re almost at the end!!! Today’s piece is by another special friend of mine. He’s one of my mentors and one of my biggest encourage-rs. Let me publicly acknowledge you and appreciate what you do behind the scenes – Thank you!!! You can follow him on Facebook (Frank Oje) for daily posts – little tidbits that can get you through the day or week or even the whole month!




Before we dive in, I want to send a shout out to my grandpa too!!! 😀 Happy birthday!!!! (even though I highly doubt he’s reading this 🙂 ) Anyway Ganaija fam, its Frank Oje with ‘Love always hopes’!

Love is a beautiful thing, no matter how you feel, in spite of whatever has happened to you. Let’s not change it! haha! Did I hit you below the belt? Before you bite me, just listen and read a few more lines, please? :P-)

The consequences of loving varies across board and lines of experience. Some people have a “Cinderella” kind of story to tell, while others can easily relate to a full epistle of how Cynthia was stood up at the airport in her wedding gown for a husband that never showed up! Such is life.

Recently I found a woman I would like to marry (again) and I thought it wise not let my mum know yet (for the umpteenth time), so it doesn’t look like I enjoy dashing her hopes. But when I went to visit her, I could only hide my feeling for a few hours (or minutes maybe?) before I started spilling -like when you open a pretty excited Coca-Cola bottle. Yeah, Love is one of such feelings that really can’t be hidden or contained for too long! You can’t buy a dream car and park it in the garage for a week. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. I was only trying to explain why I had to worship in another church the previous Sunday when I found myself “jumping tracks” in my schematics. Lol.



Contrariwise, while my mum was dancing in jubilation that her prayers have been answered, my talkative brother quickly reminded her; “mama, don’t be too happy yet, this could be like one of such days when we hoped that love had finally come but at the end, it was dashed.  But mum rebuked him and said; leave me and let me be happy. It doesn’t matter how long it lasts if it keeps hope alive. Moreover, faith is the evidence of things hoped for… which means without hope, faith has no stand! In other words, there is a connection between faith and hope and that connection is an “evidence” that ensures that whatever you have faith in, you must hope for. It suffices to say that; whatever love battle you may have seemingly lost as a result of failed expectations, you didn’t fail. It could be destiny’s path to true love, a fail forward process to the real thing (sometimes, for reasons best known to God). 

Does true love really hurt? You may want to ask. Yes it does sometimes a lot of times. Hurting on the cross (for our sakes), God, who so loved the world, felt it too. They say ‘Its people who you love that hurts you the most’. Or, it’s a ‘thing’ you love that you repeatedly go through pains to have (is labour pain flying through your mind? like right now? 🙂 ) Well, at the end “LOVE CONQUERS ALL”. So why should we continue to love amidst mixed feelings or expectations? Hmmm, because ‘HOPE’ comes with the package! Just like ‘Faith’, we have hope that sooner or later, our expectations will be met. Love always hopes. If it appears to be failing, try plugging in some more hopes. It may not result in your ‘immediate or most desired expectation when applied to humans, just remember; Even God who is love, has set before you; life and death, and He is expecting, advising and ‘hoping’ that you choose LIFE! But for free will’s sake, He can only hope!



I remember in secondary school when I told a friend I was afraid to love so I didn’t get my heart broken – He said ‘Don’t worry the next person will mend it’. I couldn’t have said it better myself – KeepHopeAlive!!! Head over to facebook and like the Ganaija page. Tomorrow’s our last guest write-in for Love One-Four. I’m excited!!!

‘’Love never fails.’’