Love One-Four 16.13


In case you missed the last posts:

Love is Patient

Love Is Kind

Love does not envy

Love does not boast

Love is not proud

Love does not dishonor others

Love is not self-seeking

Love is not easily angered

Love keeps no record of wrongs

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth

Love always protects

Love always trusts

‘… always hopes …’

We’re almost at the end!!! Today’s piece is by another special friend of mine. He’s one of my mentors and one of my biggest encourage-rs. Let me publicly acknowledge you and appreciate what you do behind the scenes – Thank you!!! You can follow him on Facebook (Frank Oje) for daily posts – little tidbits that can get you through the day or week or even the whole month!

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Before we dive in, I want to send a shout out to my grandpa too!!! 😀 Happy birthday!!!! (even though I highly doubt he’s reading this 🙂 ) Anyway Ganaija fam, its Frank Oje with ‘Love always hopes’!

Love is a beautiful thing, no matter how you feel, in spite of whatever has happened to you. Let’s not change it! haha! Did I hit you below the belt? Before you bite me, just listen and read a few more lines, please? :P-)

The consequences of loving varies across board and lines of experience. Some people have a “Cinderella” kind of story to tell, while others can easily relate to a full epistle of how Cynthia was stood up at the airport in her wedding gown for a husband that never showed up! Such is life.

Recently I found a woman I would like to marry (again) and I thought it wise not let my mum know yet (for the umpteenth time), so it doesn’t look like I enjoy dashing her hopes. But when I went to visit her, I could only hide my feeling for a few hours (or minutes maybe?) before I started spilling -like when you open a pretty excited Coca-Cola bottle. Yeah, Love is one of such feelings that really can’t be hidden or contained for too long! You can’t buy a dream car and park it in the garage for a week. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. I was only trying to explain why I had to worship in another church the previous Sunday when I found myself “jumping tracks” in my schematics. Lol.

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Contrariwise, while my mum was dancing in jubilation that her prayers have been answered, my talkative brother quickly reminded her; “mama, don’t be too happy yet, this could be like one of such days when we hoped that love had finally come but at the end, it was dashed.  But mum rebuked him and said; leave me and let me be happy. It doesn’t matter how long it lasts if it keeps hope alive. Moreover, faith is the evidence of things hoped for… which means without hope, faith has no stand! In other words, there is a connection between faith and hope and that connection is an “evidence” that ensures that whatever you have faith in, you must hope for. It suffices to say that; whatever love battle you may have seemingly lost as a result of failed expectations, you didn’t fail. It could be destiny’s path to true love, a fail forward process to the real thing (sometimes, for reasons best known to God). 

Does true love really hurt? You may want to ask. Yes it does sometimes a lot of times. Hurting on the cross (for our sakes), God, who so loved the world, felt it too. They say ‘Its people who you love that hurts you the most’. Or, it’s a ‘thing’ you love that you repeatedly go through pains to have (is labour pain flying through your mind? like right now? 🙂 ) Well, at the end “LOVE CONQUERS ALL”. So why should we continue to love amidst mixed feelings or expectations? Hmmm, because ‘HOPE’ comes with the package! Just like ‘Faith’, we have hope that sooner or later, our expectations will be met. Love always hopes. If it appears to be failing, try plugging in some more hopes. It may not result in your ‘immediate or most desired expectation when applied to humans, just remember; Even God who is love, has set before you; life and death, and He is expecting, advising and ‘hoping’ that you choose LIFE! But for free will’s sake, He can only hope!

 

#KeepHopeAlive

I remember in secondary school when I told a friend I was afraid to love so I didn’t get my heart broken – He said ‘Don’t worry the next person will mend it’. I couldn’t have said it better myself – KeepHopeAlive!!! Head over to facebook and like the Ganaija page. Tomorrow’s our last guest write-in for Love One-Four. I’m excited!!!

‘’Love never fails.’’

 

Ghanaijachic.

Love One-Four 16.12


In case you missed the last posts:

Love is Patient

Love Is Kind

Love does not envy

Love does not boast

Love is not proud

Love does not dishonor others

Love is not self-seeking

Love is not easily angered

Love keeps no record of wrongs

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth

Love always protects

‘… always trusts …’

 

We’ve been dissecting love for the past 11 days and we’ve gone from needy love to fairy tale love and everything in between! Today we’re dealing with ‘love always trusts’- Trust being a major issue in our generation. Before I give away too much, let me introduce our writer for today – Her name is Vivien! She’s a pretty and amazing Jesus lover that blogs at thefreetribe.com

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After reading I’m sure you’ll agree with me that this free triber is a great writer so here’s her love one four piece:

Trust. That is one thing I’ve always given out perhaps too easily and I’ve been betrayed and fallen victim to scammers because of it. One would think that this attribute would translate into my relationship with Jesus but the situation is quite on the contrary (maybe because humans have broken my trust quite a number of times?). In my daily walk with Him, I’ve realized that trusting… really trusting Him is HARD.

What does it mean to trust someone? To trust means to firmly believe or have confidence in the reliability, truth or integrity of a person. That word ‘firmly’ sounds quite stubborn doesn’t it? Now, I don’t believe that we should hand over our trust to every Tom, Dick and Harry. Nope. You would be setting yourself up for betrayal and heartbreak if you do so. The Bible admonishes us to guard our hearts… To guard something means taking on an active and defensive role to protect something. We have been given the Holy Spirit to help us discern and know who to trust and who not to. I know that if I had sought the opinion of the Holy Spirit and if I had given heed to His little tug in my spirit, I would not have given my trust to anyone who would end up betraying me.

For those in our inner circle like our family, close friends, and especially those with whom we share some level of spiritual, physical and emotional intimacy with (like the guy/lady we are in a relationship with, our spouse or our fiancé/fiancée), it is important to trust them. There is no point being in a relationship with someone if they have proven over and over that they cannot be trusted because “love – trust = frustration & unfulfillment”. The only way we can totally free our significant other to love us unconditionally is by giving him/her our trust. If you cannot trust him/her, you would always be jealous, suspicious, insecure, fearful, worried and possessive and this can drain the life out of any relationship. I know you’ve been hurt and betrayed in the past but the beautiful thing about walking with God is that He constantly urges us to let go of our past and move into the beautiful future He desires for us.

1 Corinthians 13:7 (MSG) says that love

“Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.” (Emphasis placed by me).

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Throughout the scripture we see our Heavenly Father calling us to trust Him, assuring us of His love, telling us of his power and might and ability and all of this is to inspire us to trust Him always. Page by page in His word we see Him inviting us to ‘taste and see’ that He is good, invoking trust for Him in our hearts. I mean, who better is there to trust than the one who created you Himself?

I love that scripture in 1 John 4:18 (ERV),

“Where God’s love is, there is no fear, because God’s perfect love takes away fear. It is His punishment that makes a person fear. So His love is not made perfect in the one who has fear.”

Our Abba wants us to be secure in His love for us! He wants us to know that his love for us is perfect and unconditional so we should have no fear that He would leave us or not keep to His word! It is the desire of the devil to make us not to trust in God’s love for us. He wants us to be insecure about it. That’s why he torments us with his lies like, “After that thing you did, do you think God will answer your prayers?” “With the way you keep gossiping after several decisions to stop doing so, are you sure you’re really a child of God?” but honey you’ve got to resist him! That’s what he wants, for us to stop trusting and start doubting our Abba so that he can fully come in and destroy our lives.

I mean, God doesn’t just love us like a one-size-fits-all kind of thing… He loves us personally, each and every one of us. He knows us by our names and knows the number of hairs on our head. He even stores up our tears in a bottle! Our tears are important to Him too; it doesn’t get more intimate and attentive than that, if you ask me!

I’m going over all of this to remind you and me to trust Him because He loves us. Trust is something that is built over time through constant relationship. If God is asking you to leave that job, trust Him that He has something better for you. If He is calling you to step into your calling or purpose, trust that He who called you will sustain you till the end because He alone knows the future. Love always trusts God to come through, no matter how bleak the future may seem. I’m sure there are times when we have not trusted our partners or those close to us, there are times when their words have not matched their actions and so we are afraid to let go and open up and be vulnerable to avoid being hurt again. This is because they are human and there is only so much that they can do. But Abba is asking us to be confident in Him and totally rely on Him because He is perfect and only Him can give us the perfect love our soul desires. Man will always fall short.

Instead of constantly trying so hard to hold His hands and keep slipping, why not trust that He is holding you up with His right hand and will never let go? Instead of constantly feeling like you do not love Him enough, why not accept His perfect love for you and ask Him to teach you how to love Him? When we trust Him completely, we come to realize that He never ever fails. His love never ever fails. It may not seem like it right now but you will look back on your life someday and see that trusting Abba really paid off.

I pray that His spirit works in us to inspire our trust in Him more and more. And I pray that He leads us in our trusting others so that we do not open up our hearts or give our trust to the wrong people.

  • The FreeTriber

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I honestly can just pull put like five or ten quotes from this piece that I want to use as my wall paper or screen saver to keep reminding me that I need to trust in God no matter how many times man might fail me. Another thing, don’t give up on humanity. Trust that man can be good and trust that true love indeed never fails. Don’t stop loving guys,

‘’Love never fails.’’

 

Ghanaijachic.

Love One-Four 16.11


In case you missed the last posts:

Love is Patient

Love Is Kind

Love does not envy

Love does not boast

Love is not proud

Love does not dishonor others

Love is not self-seeking

Love is not easily angered

Love keeps no record of wrongs

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth

‘It always protects …’

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I guess you’ve figured out by now that today’s writer is the pretty Miss Demiladeayo. Before I continue, let me mention again how much I love her name. Oluwademiladeayo – it’s a mouthful but a very beautiful name. Anyway I digress – Engineer Adeayo is a sweet spirit and an amazing writer (you should know by now that our write-ins are by amazing writers 😉 ). She blogs at demiladeayo.com. Make sure you check it out – there’s something for everyone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Here’s Deayo’s take on ‘Love always protects’!

 

The statement ‘love always protects’ immediately brings to mind the image of a mother and the love for her child. 

 

The word of God says that nothing can separate us from the love of God. 

 

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It is always amazing to watch a mother come to the defence of her child to ensure that he or she is well protected from the cold, he or she is not hungry and he or she is emotionally stable- that is what a true mother would do. It is the same when we are truly in love with someone- we always want to protect that person; either the person’s image or the person’s love. Even when we are hurting there is always this sense of “May nothing bad ever happen to this person I love”, because we could not bear losing such a person.  

How much more is God’s love for us? Even when we fall short and we think we would be left defenceless and alone. Even when we fall short and we think God is so angry as to allow the forces of darkness and evil deal with us; he promises- “I will never leave you nor forsake you“- because real love protects. 

The word of God also says that perfect love drives out all fear. 

The protective nature of love always helps us to feel at peace and guarded. We know that we are never alone. We know that our steps are ordered by the Lord.

Remember all those fairy-tale movies we watched were the wicked queen tries to harm the humble princess and the charming prince tries to save her? No matter the tragedy that unfolds at the end of the day, love always wins and they live happily ever after. 

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Love never fails because God never fails. God’s love will never fail you when you need it the most. And because nothing can separate you from the love of God you are more than a conqueror. 

 

Love is usually depicted as a fairy tale anyway and with our God, there’s victory always!!! Never forget that – EVER!!! God’s love wins over all – even faith and hope 😉

‘’Love never fails.’’

Ghanaijachic.

Love One-Four 16.10


In case you missed the last posts:

Love is Patient

Love Is Kind

Love does not envy

Love does not boast

Love is not proud

Love does not dishonor others

Love is not self-seeking

Love is not easily angered

Love keeps no record of wrongs

‘Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.’

This particular verse is somewhat tricky. Love not delighting in evil means that even when you love someone, you should not encourage their bad habits or ‘sins’. It also does not mean that you should gloat when an ‘enemy’ is found guilty of a crime. Love rejoicing in the truth means that you celebrate what is right and good – not covering up soon or trying to justify sin. Remember, love is not about how you feel towards someone or who can ‘do you’ back. It’s a lot more complicated than that as we’ve seen so far. Anyway for us to understand this particular quality of love God’s way, we need to understand God’s perspective of evil and the truth.

Today’s write in is by a friend of mine I like to call trans-national. She’s from the South, lives in the North, schooled in the North first then in Western Nigeria and now I’m waiting for her to bring home an Eastern husband. She is truly Nigerian! Okay too much information, her name is Comfort and she’s a God lover too. One more thing, if you haven’t liked Ganaija on facebook yet – WAIT!!! Now click here and like …

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Here’s her Love One-Four piece:

To get a beautiful illustration concerning this great fact about love, let us cast our mind back to the parable of the prodigal son (Luke 15 v 11 – 32).

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Yes the boy did evil and no father would be happy about that.  But what happened when the prodigal son saw himself as he truly was – worthless without his father and unworthy to be called son? He was welcomed in grand style by his father.

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One point to note here is that in love, even though evil occurs, if followed by a realization of the wrong and an embrace of the truth, the joy that the truth brings overcomes the unhappiness that came with evil.

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And that’s it folks. It’s short but I hope you got the message. Celebrate God’s truth – even if people err, correct them in love. It’s not an opportunity for ‘I told you so!’

‘’Love never fails.’’

Ghanaijachic.

Love One-Four 16.8


In case you missed the last posts:

Love is Patient

Love Is Kind

Love does not envy

Love does not boast

Love is not proud

Love does not dishonor others

Love is not self-seeking

‘… It is not easily angered …’

Have you liked Ganaija on facebook yet? Then pause – click on the link and like the page before you go any further!!!

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Today’s piece is by my G baby, G mama, my one and only Glory!!!! She’s an amazing human being and is literally a ball of energy …. I’m pretty sure I might haave gotten on her nerves aa few times but she stills loves me. Another thing, she’s an amazing story teller so we always have fun writing stories and scripts together. Well, I’ve been known to have a tendency of talking too much so let’s just get on with Glory’s take on ‘Love is not easily angered’.

Love is not easily angered: Love never fails.

Teju was scared – Scared to the bone!!! You know that feeling you have when you know obviously that there is no escape plan. There is no excuse, no lie you can tell to defend yourself. There is actually no use of trying. This is it. This is it! It’s the Last and final time. In short no more time. Have you ever been in those shoes?!

Well Teju was in it. How could she have done it again?  After everything?! How could she have been so stupid?! Stupid is even an understatement because her eyes were opened. Fully opened! She knew what she was doing but damned the consequences. Funny part is that she knew she was being watched. Yes! She knew. But still the pleasure just for a moment clouded the treasure for the long time. She so wanted it badly. Did you get that?! She WANTed it badly yet her NEED was met!

She took hold of her want blind siding her need. And after the pleasure yet still not satisfied, what does she do next?!

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You thought right!!

Oh No she didn’t, (Oh Yes she did!)

Why should she?! (Why shouldn’t she?).

She had messed up (haven’t you?! Severally?!! Don’t judge!)

Others had rejected her, even the pleasure had used her up (Can’t you relate) The best thing was to run away but she tried her need.

 

Walking towards her last option, head bowed, heart pumping hard, hands shaking.. She stood face to face.

She: (head bowed, tears flowing) I’ve messed up

Need: I know

She: I don’t know what came over me.

Need: (silence)

She: (starts ranting) I’m sorry! Truly and deeply sorry. I can’t do this any longer. I’m tired. Really tired. I’m a mess … I know you are tired of me too. I know you are angry. I know you don’t even want me…

Need: I am not angry!

And as she finally lifted her head up, she beheld the face but couldn’t understand what she was seeing. The bright face with the huge smile, shining white teeth, sparkling blue eyes with hands stretched out for a welcoming hug. She was perplexed.

 And all she could say was WHY?!

Why are you welcoming me?! Who exactly are You?!

I AM.

I AM sees beyond your pleasures and into your Heart.. Remember I am spirit and know all things.

I AM understands your situations… Remember I came as a man to walk through those paths.

So I know how it feels that’s why I don’t get angry easily.

I turn your mess into my Message,

I am your Need and not your Want…

And when you finally seek Need…

I am Found… I have always been here… Remember I will always be with YOU.

So I definitely do not fail…

Because I AM…

LOVE

 

         Love doesn’t get angry easily (1Cor 13:5)

         Love certainly doesn’t fail (1Cor 13:8)

         Just recognize your need…God is Love 

  • Glory

 

Just because love isn’t easily angered doesn’t mean we should provoke love to anger. No aspect of love is independent of the other as you might have noticed by now. Because love is patient, it is not easily angered and because it is not self-seeking, it doesn’t seek to anger as well. So I’ll leave you with Gee’s words again:

‘Just recognise your need … God is LOVE’ and

‘’Love never fails.’’

Ghanaijachic.