Hey everyone! I know Christmas day’s over and all but in the spirit of Christmas (and due to technical difficulties from my end), I’ll be posting the remaining ‘All I want for Christmas’ posts over the next couple of days.
Today I want to introduce you to a very dear mentor of mine. 😀 She’s awesome, God fearing and loves God with all she is! (Notice I said ‘is’ and not ‘has’). She’s one of the few people who have shown me that Christianity does not mean ‘boring’ or ‘suffering’ but setting standards for the world to follow in ALL aspects of life and she blogs here. Ladies and gentlemen, I want you to sit back and enjoy this piece on Self control by Miss Nana Fatima Daudu!
Self control …. Two words that have determined the rise and fall of men, families and nations. It is a very important virtue that every man must develop if he hopes to succeed in life.
Self control is discipline. It is the ability to live above your desires and cravings. It refers to being a master rather than a slave to yourself. Self-control is the true meaning of freedom. Often people feel that to be free means to be able to do as you wish or a life with no restrictions. The truth however is that freedom is the ability to live a disciplined life ( in other words a life characterized by self control). It is ability to do not what you want but what you ought. A person who lacks discipline is a man who is free but one who is a slave, a slave to his own desires. He is no better than an animal who is controlled by instinct and impulse.
Self control is key if you desire to not just attain success but remain successful. Getting to the top is never as difficult as staying on top. The difference more often than not between those who get to the top and those who stay there is self control. Without self control or discipline any success you attain is short lived. The bible says puts it perfectly when it says ” a man without self control is like a city broken into and left without walls” (Proverbs 25:28 ESV). A life led without self control is a disaster waiting to happen. There are many examples of individuals and nations whose lack of discipline has resulted in their plunge from grace to grass. Nigeria is classic example. The indiscipline of her leaders and citizens has resulted in her non existent movement towards development and stunted growth. The world’s economic crisis can be traced to the indiscipline of a men in the pursuit of profit. The likes of Lindsay Lohan living a life of self gratification show just how indiscipline can ruin your life and talent.
Marriages have ended because someone couldn’t show discipline. Marriage requires commitment and commitment requires discipline. Let me elaborate. When you get married, you don’t become blind. Getting married will not stop me from finding good looking men attractive or my husband from finding good looking women attractive. Who you find attractive is instinctive. ( If you find Thor or Kim Kardashian attractive, getting married will not change that). However, what matters is what you do with the attraction. Do you as a married person, pursue another person because you are attracted to them or do you discipline yourself remembering your commitment to one you married? Some couples are unfaithful not because they do not love their partners but because they lacked self control and acted on a passing instinctive attraction to another person. This is just an instance of one of the many areas of life that indiscipline can destroy.
Mastering oneself is d greatest achievement in life. “He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still”(wise saying). As a christian self control is what keeps you from sinning and gratifying as the bible puts it the desires of the flesh. God has created us for a purpose and the truth is that we cannot achieve that destiny if we don’t discipline ourselves. We must learn to do the right thing at the right time. We must learn to say no to ourselves. We as believers must be controlled only by the spirit of God. When we lack self control, it means we are slaves to ourselves and thus we have become a god to ourselves. In other words we replaced God in our lives.
Self control is a virtue of necessity It gives you the power to stick to your decisions and follow them through. It is an important requirement for the attainment of any objective. It leads to the development of self esteem, confidence and inner strength all of which make you a better individual. Self control is not self denial but mastery of your desires and passions. There is saying “I am indeed a king because I know how to rule myself” A sign of an intelligent man is self control and discipline.
The true key to conquering the world is conquering yourself. As a saying goes “Ultimately, the only power to which man should aspire is that which he exercises over himself.”
And in life “Everyone must choose one of two pains: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”
If you refuse to learn self control, your life will inadvertently be filled with a truck load of regrets.
Self control isn’t easy. It is developed in pain. It is built over time through determination and will power. It has to be strengthened through training and practice. It is not an easy thing to possess but it definitely useful. The holy spirit can help you develop this virtue. It is a conscious decision to live a life of discipline. It is choice you make every day, every hour, every second. The benefits make it worth the effort.
And so we’ve heard it. Self-control is the key to staying successful. Read all the self help books you like to get there but ultimately can you stay there? One thing I’ve decided is that as the year ends its time to choose – Discipline or Regret!!!