14th October 2012

Everything should be balanced in your life. If there are some things you need to give up completely, then go ahead and do so! The lack of equilibrium in a system causes it to topple or fall.When you do everything in moderation, you are happier and have a more balanced life.

Have an awesome and moderation practiced week!


He’s totally into you ;-)

A particular someone has been waiting for this and I’d hate to disappoint him so here goes
Girls, self examination first of all:
1. Is he always on the phone with other girls in your presence?
2. Does he look at you with honour and respect?
3. Does he call regularly?
4. Does he respect your ‘No’?
5. Is he proud to show you off to everybody?
6. .What is his reaction to your most annoying behaviour?

Alright I’ll stop!!! Too many questions. I’m sure y’all are saying ‘Let’s start already’ … Well, we have! Just kidding (or am I?)!!!
Oh okay, here we go:
He’s totally into you when he respects you! Don’t tell me respect is relative or reciprocal or whatever other ‘r’ word you can manage to conjure up. He respects you enough to NOT spend all his time with you on the phone with other girls. He looks at you with respect not as if he’s gonna devour you or he can’t wait to eat you up! If his eyes scream lechery, then he’s not into YOU! He should respect your ‘No’ and not force you to do what you don’t want to do. Don’t get me wrong … He is allowed to try and get you to experiment and go on adventures but once it comes to compromising your values – you should draw the line; He’s into you, he’ll get that.
We get that guys are not sentimental but he should be protective and caring NOT overbearing. He wants to be your ‘Knight in shining armour’, saying in the good old fashioned way ‘Can I do this for you’, or ‘Would you like my help with ….’. He wants you to know how he feels about you so he not only tries to show it but he says it as well – no matter how few and far between he does that. He calls you to say He loves you not just during the weekend for a rendez-vous.
Next, when you’re having a conversation, he wants to hear about you, he doesn’t go on and on about himself. He talks about you and how to make things better between you two. Again don’t get it twisted, he’s not to be vague about himself, that in itself is shady and should be avoided but he’s more into you than he is into himself. He reaches over into your interests and gently brings you into his. You can see that he makes an effort to compromise for your sake but again I maintain – ‘If the compromise involves compromising values then … DON’T!’ He respects your views but he’s not afraid to air his as well. He doesn’t try to make you feel ‘stupid’ for thinking the way you do. He doesn’t go about telling everyone what he does for you but he wants to do more. He wants the whole world to know that you’re ‘His’.
So ladies, if he’s into you, you’ll know. Don’t break his heart …. And don’t let him suffer too much! Let him down easy … If you love him, hang on tight!!!

I honestly just saw this quote – about a split second ago and it sums it all up:

Girls when you find a KING, keep him;

Guys when you find a QUEEN, love and protect her;

Don’t reshuffle your cards, you just might end up with the JOKER!!!

Feel free to check out ‘She’s so not into you‘ as well.

Enjoy your week!!!

She’s so NOT into you :-p

Since I’ve been stalling on writing – I sincerely apologize for that – I decided to give us a little something before our next guest write-in which is by Tallen.

So guys, here are a few questions you need to ask yourself:

  • Does she want to constantly be around you?
  • Does she keep postponing your meetings with her family and friends?
  • Does she often ask your opinion on decisions she makes?
  • Is she flirting with you?
  • Is she excited when you surprise her or she always wants you to inform her before you show up?

One fact I just learnt is that ‘For every ten men a lady meetss, she thinks eight of them are stupid.’ This amounts to 80% which goes to say that to a lady, most of the guys around her are not worth wasting time on. They are either categorized under ‘JOKERS’ or just plain ‘UNSERIOUS and UNFOCUSED’, in other words classified as ‘NFAs’ (No future ambition).  My first piece of advice is that you should try as much as possible to ALWAYS be among the 20% with the ladies you associate yourself with. I’m not saying that you should have plans for all of them but at least don’t be just ‘comic relief’ to their lives.

I digress. Back to business …

Someone that’s totally into you wants to constantly be around you. If she doesn’t like hanging out with you in public or it seems like she’s avoiding you, chances are that she’s embarrassed by your presence and that definitely will lead you nowhere. This is very easy to detect so SHINE YA EYE now o!!! A lady that always meets you at a ‘spot’ is also one to be wary of. If she doesn’t like you enough to introduce you to her family or her friends at least, e don be for you. You’re just a distraction – a sort of plaything – to her so run before you get any ideas. She’s into you, she’ll want you to come ‘home’ not always meeting you wherever.

Are you sure you wanna read on? Okay let’s continue …

Next, asking your opinion on things no matter how trivial is very important. It means she trusts your judgement or she simply trusts you. So when she wants to know what you think about stuff all the time, then she’s into you because she values your opinion. As a girl, I know that when you’re totally into someone, his name rarely leaves your lips so another indication is that her friends are bored with her constant ravings and ranting about you,

And I was talking to Mike the other day …’

‘Then Mike just went in …’

‘One thing Mike always says is …’

If you’re not on her conversation list, then my brother DON’T BOTHER!!! She should be happy to see you when you surprise her with visits. Should she be all ‘Why didn’t you call me to inform me you were coming?’, ‘Can’t you see I’m busy?’,’ It’s a really bad time for you to be here.’, then maybe something’s wrong. If she likes you, she’ll be flirty, very touchy feely. The little hand gestures like a tap on the shoulder, an arm pat, the frequent ‘accidental’ bumps into you; she just wants some form of contact. Even with this, she can’t look directly at you. She’s a little shy and lets out these little giggles. Basically, she becomes a semi-child in your presence.

This next bit is probably scary guys so hang on …

When a lady is into you, she makes subtle references to family life – Marriage (Yes I said marriage and I really am about to type the next word as well :-D), children, what she wants her kitchen to look like – the list is endless. She’s basically telling you that she wants a future with you but don’t be scared and run away!!! Lastly she wants to hear from you all the time. If you usually talk once every day and there’s a break in the routine she starts to fret and no its not nagging! She may call your phone and say it was accidental – maybe she hit redial (yeah right!) or she mistakenly dialled while her phone was in her pocket (classic excuse!!!).

In summary, the greatest confession of a woman is ‘You’ve been on my mind the whole day’. It translates to ‘I love you’, ‘I need you’ AND ‘I want you’! This statement means she’s DEFINITELY into you!!!

So guys, you know some things to look out for to know if she’s into you but be warned – ‘DO NOT MANIPULATE ANY GIRL TO YOUR ADVANTAGE’. The law of life – karma – it will definitely come back to you.

Hope you enjoyed reading guys, and ladies, I’m sorry I did this … I had to give them a little heads up! I’ll soon put upHe’s totally into you so sit tight!!!

Happiness :-)

Our next guest write in is @Ms_Symiee!!! She is one person I admire – young yet full of wisdom. She just started blogging a while back and I’m enjoying her blog so far … Read this and there’s a link to her blog at the end! Enjoy!!!


What is happiness?

There are many words and emotions that I feel are very subjective.

If I ask 10 people what they think love is, I will likely get 10 different answers.  I think the same applies to happiness.

Happiness, as we use it in conversation, is usually a goal or state we want to be in.  The problem is that usually we can’t be concrete as to what that goal state looks like.  We say we want to be happy but we don’t know what that is.

When we use the word happiness this way it is nearly impossible to find it.  If you can’t clearly define a goal, then you can’t clearly define the steps to achieving that goal.  It is in this way that happiness is very bad for our health.  We set ourselves up to fail.

When I am down I often lament, “I just want to feel happy.”  But what does happiness feel like?

Am I asking for an endless bliss like euphoria?  Most people know that’s unrealistic
What am I saying?  Here are some examples from my own life:

I just want to be happy = I am sick and want to feel better

I just want to be happy = I really need to treat myself to a movie or some french fries

I just want to be happy = I want more money

Laugh with me as you see that in the above examples, happiness could mean just about anything!  I am sure you can think of some examples in your own life.

Happiness is harmful when we define it very loosely.  When we say we want happiness and yet don’t take the time to identify what we really want, we go around in circles, like a ship with just one oar, or we become paralyzed.

“All things being equal, an object at rest, stays at rest.”

When we define what our need or want is we can then figure out how to get to it.

Instead of waiting for the universe to surprise us with sudden happiness, we take charge of our lives.  When we know what we want, we can plan to get it.  When we are empowered and we work towards a goal and achieve it, I’d say that’s something to be happy about.

The key to happiness is knowing what you want and finding a way to get from A to B.

The other key to happiness is knowing when we are being unrealistic about life, our circumstances, and other people.  When this happens, we need to pull up deep from our inner creative beings, and realign to a goal that is more manageable.

I look forward to more posts about things that can aid us in our lives to achieve goals and growth.  When we learn about gratitude, forgiveness, patience, unconditional love, and we find a way to awaken our soul through spirituality, we are learning about things that will impact our life in a happy way.


By Swansparkle aka Ms_Symiee

 Click on the link to get to her blog!!!