Posted in Peculiar to Naija

E go better … But it starts with you

Nigeria!!! Because of so many unfortunate occurrences, we have been subjected to deep scrutiny by our fellow Nigerians.
Let me back up a little:

Set the stage. 1990’s thereabouts, I need a loan from the bank. I just walk in, drop my land documents as collateral, they approve the loan, I pay back and we’re done!! My documents are mine, your money is yours.

Set stage 2: 2012: Step through two security doors and a metal detector, get scanned at the inner door, apply for a loan with your land documents, land documents go through several screening processes over a period 3 months, comes back to you, loan denied!!!

So you see where I’m coming from. Due to the rising number of frauds and the fact that most of these institutions have had their fingers burned, they are being extra careful to the point of frustration. Suppose for instance you have your title documents and they somehow appear at a bank to serve as collateral for someone you had no idea existed!!! That’s how bad its gotten.

Today for instance, I went to apply as a volunteer worker somewhere and I was told that I couldn’t start immediately – Reason being that they had to check my background and all because these days they don’t know who is who with all that’s happening in the country. (This is by the way but I hope I’ll be able to post a day to day update of my volunteer experience – Diary of a volunteer worker. Details later!!!)
Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that there are serious issues at hand, yes, but we need to change. If the next person says A does it so I will, there will be no improvement. Do what is right not what is common. Some people are probably murmuring now that no matter what there will always be the fraudsters and I say ‘So what?’ Does it mean you have to be one? If everyone leaves the defrauding to someone else, won’t the rate decrease drastically or be ultimately non-existent?
This is a cry out to Nigerians!!! Do not be distracted by trivial issues. Look out for the bigger picture. Talk to the ‘man in the mirror’ and make a change!
A little change, you’d be surprised, goes a long way. So today, please please and please, decide to make a change for a positive Nigeria. We say Nigeria would be better but Nigeria is the people so let us be better for a better Nigeria!!

Its the end of May and the beginning of the last month in the first half of the year. Make a change before it is too late.
God bless Nigeria and God bless us all!!!
Enjoy the rest of your week and happy new month in advance!!!

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Posted in Life

He’s totally into you ;-)

A particular someone has been waiting for this and I’d hate to disappoint him so here goes
Girls, self examination first of all:
1. Is he always on the phone with other girls in your presence?
2. Does he look at you with honour and respect?
3. Does he call regularly?
4. Does he respect your ‘No’?
5. Is he proud to show you off to everybody?
6. .What is his reaction to your most annoying behaviour?

Alright I’ll stop!!! Too many questions. I’m sure y’all are saying ‘Let’s start already’ … Well, we have! Just kidding (or am I?)!!!
Oh okay, here we go:
He’s totally into you when he respects you! Don’t tell me respect is relative or reciprocal or whatever other ‘r’ word you can manage to conjure up. He respects you enough to NOT spend all his time with you on the phone with other girls. He looks at you with respect not as if he’s gonna devour you or he can’t wait to eat you up! If his eyes scream lechery, then he’s not into YOU! He should respect your ‘No’ and not force you to do what you don’t want to do. Don’t get me wrong … He is allowed to try and get you to experiment and go on adventures but once it comes to compromising your values – you should draw the line; He’s into you, he’ll get that.
We get that guys are not sentimental but he should be protective and caring NOT overbearing. He wants to be your ‘Knight in shining armour’, saying in the good old fashioned way ‘Can I do this for you’, or ‘Would you like my help with ….’. He wants you to know how he feels about you so he not only tries to show it but he says it as well – no matter how few and far between he does that. He calls you to say He loves you not just during the weekend for a rendez-vous.
Next, when you’re having a conversation, he wants to hear about you, he doesn’t go on and on about himself. He talks about you and how to make things better between you two. Again don’t get it twisted, he’s not to be vague about himself, that in itself is shady and should be avoided but he’s more into you than he is into himself. He reaches over into your interests and gently brings you into his. You can see that he makes an effort to compromise for your sake but again I maintain – ‘If the compromise involves compromising values then … DON’T!’ He respects your views but he’s not afraid to air his as well. He doesn’t try to make you feel ‘stupid’ for thinking the way you do. He doesn’t go about telling everyone what he does for you but he wants to do more. He wants the whole world to know that you’re ‘His’.
So ladies, if he’s into you, you’ll know. Don’t break his heart …. And don’t let him suffer too much! Let him down easy … If you love him, hang on tight!!!

I honestly just saw this quote – about a split second ago and it sums it all up:

Girls when you find a KING, keep him;

Guys when you find a QUEEN, love and protect her;

Don’t reshuffle your cards, you just might end up with the JOKER!!!

Feel free to check out ‘She’s so not into you‘ as well.

Enjoy your week!!!

Posted in Life

She’s so NOT into you :-p

Since I’ve been stalling on writing – I sincerely apologize for that – I decided to give us a little something before our next guest write-in which is by Tallen.

So guys, here are a few questions you need to ask yourself:

  • Does she want to constantly be around you?
  • Does she keep postponing your meetings with her family and friends?
  • Does she often ask your opinion on decisions she makes?
  • Is she flirting with you?
  • Is she excited when you surprise her or she always wants you to inform her before you show up?

One fact I just learnt is that ‘For every ten men a lady meetss, she thinks eight of them are stupid.’ This amounts to 80% which goes to say that to a lady, most of the guys around her are not worth wasting time on. They are either categorized under ‘JOKERS’ or just plain ‘UNSERIOUS and UNFOCUSED’, in other words classified as ‘NFAs’ (No future ambition).  My first piece of advice is that you should try as much as possible to ALWAYS be among the 20% with the ladies you associate yourself with. I’m not saying that you should have plans for all of them but at least don’t be just ‘comic relief’ to their lives.

I digress. Back to business …

Someone that’s totally into you wants to constantly be around you. If she doesn’t like hanging out with you in public or it seems like she’s avoiding you, chances are that she’s embarrassed by your presence and that definitely will lead you nowhere. This is very easy to detect so SHINE YA EYE now o!!! A lady that always meets you at a ‘spot’ is also one to be wary of. If she doesn’t like you enough to introduce you to her family or her friends at least, e don be for you. You’re just a distraction – a sort of plaything – to her so run before you get any ideas. She’s into you, she’ll want you to come ‘home’ not always meeting you wherever.

Are you sure you wanna read on? Okay let’s continue …

Next, asking your opinion on things no matter how trivial is very important. It means she trusts your judgement or she simply trusts you. So when she wants to know what you think about stuff all the time, then she’s into you because she values your opinion. As a girl, I know that when you’re totally into someone, his name rarely leaves your lips so another indication is that her friends are bored with her constant ravings and ranting about you,

And I was talking to Mike the other day …’

‘Then Mike just went in …’

‘One thing Mike always says is …’

If you’re not on her conversation list, then my brother DON’T BOTHER!!! She should be happy to see you when you surprise her with visits. Should she be all ‘Why didn’t you call me to inform me you were coming?’, ‘Can’t you see I’m busy?’,’ It’s a really bad time for you to be here.’, then maybe something’s wrong. If she likes you, she’ll be flirty, very touchy feely. The little hand gestures like a tap on the shoulder, an arm pat, the frequent ‘accidental’ bumps into you; she just wants some form of contact. Even with this, she can’t look directly at you. She’s a little shy and lets out these little giggles. Basically, she becomes a semi-child in your presence.

This next bit is probably scary guys so hang on …

When a lady is into you, she makes subtle references to family life – Marriage (Yes I said marriage and I really am about to type the next word as well :-D), children, what she wants her kitchen to look like – the list is endless. She’s basically telling you that she wants a future with you but don’t be scared and run away!!! Lastly she wants to hear from you all the time. If you usually talk once every day and there’s a break in the routine she starts to fret and no its not nagging! She may call your phone and say it was accidental – maybe she hit redial (yeah right!) or she mistakenly dialled while her phone was in her pocket (classic excuse!!!).

In summary, the greatest confession of a woman is ‘You’ve been on my mind the whole day’. It translates to ‘I love you’, ‘I need you’ AND ‘I want you’! This statement means she’s DEFINITELY into you!!!

So guys, you know some things to look out for to know if she’s into you but be warned – ‘DO NOT MANIPULATE ANY GIRL TO YOUR ADVANTAGE’. The law of life – karma – it will definitely come back to you.

Hope you enjoyed reading guys, and ladies, I’m sorry I did this … I had to give them a little heads up! I’ll soon put upHe’s totally into you so sit tight!!!