The Stalker


Once upon a time, I had a stalker. We got down from the same keke and crossed the same road. He walked behind me through the same shortcuts and turned the same turns. We walked to the same estate and greeted the same people.

We stopped to talk and walked home and walked to the same block. So my stalker if ever you’re reading this, I know you’re not a stalker but I never did get your name. I’m two houses away so just knock and say you’re the stalker looking for me and I’ll know. Then I’ll tell you my name and we’ll live happily ever after.

Hey guys! Haven’t written in a while so I just decided to colour this page a bit. This story kind of really happened two days back on my way from work and I’m still waiting to see if I can find the young man.

P.S. He wasn’t a real stalker. 

Have an awesome weekend guys!!!

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Oya make yanga


Someone told me that he’s in the university of the streets, school of hard knocks. I know I’ve heard the saying sometime before but at that particular moment it hit me – I have been going through this uni on a particular drug! I admit it – i’m a grace junkie!!!
Moreover, the university of the streets is affiliated with the university of life and my daddy founded the university of life!!! I just need to remember that and walk in that knowledge – whatever I need He gives me. I have that favour from Him!!!
Anyway today isn’t about that, i’m here to introduce to you Yangamall!!! Oya time to make Yanga! If you haven’t heard you’re seriously dulling!!! Its an online shopping mall to cater to all your shopping needs and upon launch, there would be a wide selection of carefully selected first-class products including groceries, home essentials, fashion products, Computers, Clothing, Shoes, Books, Healthcare, Baby Products, personal care and much more, at attractive prices and timely promotions.
Yanga Mall 4 days
Its just 4 days to launch! We are counting down oh!!! For now though, follow or like YangaMall on every social media you belong to for updates!!! Just click and you’d be redirected. Don’t worry if you want to click more than one … the links would open in different tabs.
Like the facebook page:
If you are on LinkedIn, you can follow the Company page:
All my Twitter peeps, follow and tell others to follow too!!! Yangamall would follow back 🙂
Pinterest Boards are here:
Yangamall will surely have some of the stuff you see on Pinterest!
For Google Plus  as well, click here:
And I cannot leave without leaving an Instagram ID! Search for @YangaMall
http://www.instagram.com/yangamall
Keep counting down! Remember just 4 days to go! Have a great week ahead guys!!! Till tomorrow #MakeYanga

Boundaries I


This particular post is way overdue and I want to first send a shoutout to @_shimuel who constantly reminded me that I was supposed to put this up and finally I have! :D. Thank you for your persistence and this Ghanaijachic appreciates your belief and dedication in this!

Now let’s begin!

The first thing that comes to your mind when you hear boundaries is restriction – at least that’s what comes to my mind . Limitations and rules are two other very likely words but no one immediately thinks of protection. The thing is God has set boundary lines for us and instead of thinking about how much this ‘limits’ you remember they have fallen for you in pleasant places meaning that whatever you do within these boundary lines is not supposed to ‘steal’ your joy! Boundaries give you identity – This is me, my gifts, values, feelings, needs, beliefs, etc.

Psalm 16:7
‘The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places, surely I have a delightful inheritance.

There are five major boundaries that you must set for yourself and not cross. I learnt an acronym for that and its – PRESS.

Personal Space

Personal Boundaries: Personal boundaries are the hardest to set because they involve me controlling me. It’s easy to make excuses and readjust boundaries we set for ourselves as we please but sometimes we need to be disciplined. The most important personal boundary to me is controlling your tongue.

Mat 12:36 – 37
‘But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.’

Thinking about the fact that I would be judged based on everything that comes out of my mouth makes me think twice before i utter anything. Another thing is letting my yes be yes and my no, no. It simply means I must be a person of integrity. Whatever it is that would compromise my integrity, I choose to be apart from. Think of what personal boundaries you need to set and remember setting personal boundaries does not mean shutting people out!

 

Relational Boundaries: Man is a social being and no man is an island. We therefore need to relate with each other in this world but one principle everyone understands is that ‘You are the company you keep’. Hanging around certain characters all the time would ensure that you pick up those characters whether you like it or not.

1Cor 15:33
‘Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.’

5 rules

Don’t use that as an excuse though to  be ‘unequally yoked’ with unbelievers. The truth of the matter is that for ‘yoked’ relationships, the two people (or more than two) have to have the same basic beliefs and if they disagree then the foundation is shaky. This is also not to say that Christians shouldn’t be friends with Buddhists and cast them out or they should torment Muslims because they are of different faiths but that you should set boundaries as to what kind of relationships you have with people and who you can get intimate with.

Emotional Boundaries: The hardest emotional boundary to set is ‘turning the other cheek’. I often debate within myself as to whether I should ignore when others hurt me in a bid to maintain peace or if it’s okay to get angry. I finally decided that if someone hurts me I’d tell them – maybe not there and then but just to get it off my shoulder and avoid keeping a grudge. If it’s no big deal, then fine I may not need to bring it up except it is a recurring habit. I also decided that par adventure I get angry, I shouldn’t speak in anger or make decisions in anger. Still don’t let people take advantage of you okay?

Control

Eph 4:26
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:’

 

I’ll end here for now – there are two more major boundaries you shouldn’t cross or you should set for yourself – Situational and Sexual and I’ll be talking about them in my next post along with some consequences of breaking boundaries. Leave a comment and let me know what you think abiout boundaries.

Ta ta for now!

 

What is the point of love? – Day 12


Today’s write in is by a naughty friend of mine – Yes naughty :p Her name’s Nkechi and she’s an amazing writer. I wish she’d write more often though 😦 She’s also a great artist and she loves me to pieces. Hehehe I said it on the world wide web! 😀 Wondering why love someone anyway? Let’s find out!

Really tough question huh? I have had my entire life to think about this, didn’t do a very good job at it though but in the past few months, I have come to realize that LOVE exists to give hope to the hopeless, to give a sense of belonging to many that feel out of place. It is an inward force that causes you to care for people extraordinarily without limits or regrets … Its difficult at first.

‘Love is like sweet tarts. They go in sour but finish off sweet.’

However do not be deceived by the things you see in the world about how love is expressed; real love is of God. The kind of love without conditions; the love that does not desire a return, love offered knowing that the person being loved cannot love back that way or does not deserve it.

*Picture this*

Love One-Four

Daisy, Michelle and Laura have been friends for more than half their lives; you would expect that at this point, nothing can separate them but then Michelle starts feeling jealous because she thinks Daisy and Laura have more time for themselves than they do for her and she feels cheated. Instead of voicing this out, she starts to build this volcanic mountain of hurt inside of her (sooner than later, she’s bound to erupt). Lets say she keeps a huge distance between them and stays on her own, hurting Daisy and Laura in the process; nothing gets solved and she ends up feeling more hurt than before.

Little things like this happen in recent times and grow into worse scenarios but love does not hold grudges or act out of hurt, love is not possessive, selfish, one-sided or proud, love pulls you back to happiness no matter how bad a mess you have been through, love heals shattered hearts, love speaks even in silence, love binds, erases bad memories, helps you grow … So what exactly is the point of love you ask? Love is life. A loveless person is a walking dead.

Who do you need to love today? Mend the cracks in your relationships before they become holes. Go back and love somebody who can’t love you back or who doesn’t deserve it! Till tomorrow again!!