The Golden Chance


Mr Tola Adewumi is our next guest writer. He is the immediate former president of the International Students Association of Kwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology. Personally Tola is an inspiration to me. Listening to his story and taking into consideration where he is now, I’ve come to the conclusion that if God is for you, NOONE can be against you and secondly that you decide the path of your life by your reactions to situations. Read on and enjoy!!!

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Bayo completed his West Africa Examinations (WAEC) JUNE 2007. His result was not the best to boast of, but was celebrated for a student who passed through a secondary school in Irepodun LGA Kwara state. He was ready to shift his academic transmission gear to the next level.

On his first attempt of the Joint Admission Matriculation Board exam (JAMB), he pulled through to gain admission into one of the best universities in Nigeria, University of Ilorin, after scoring a total score of 180 among the four science subjects, English Language, Mathematics, Chemistry and Physics. He must have been a very lucky boy as everyone congratulated his one time achievement, with other students scoring higher marks unable to put their names in the admission list for the 2007/2008 academic year. I believe many students truly deserve honorary awards from the Joint Admission Matriculation examination board for their consistent annual tremendous participation but fruitless efforts to successfully pass one of the most controversial examinations in Nigeria.

Bayo was presented with a golden opportunity many sacrificed for, as it was the only visa to become an undergraduate student of any government owned university in Nigeria, and since most parents could hardly flex their financial muscles to send their wards to any of the private institutions in the country it was the only way to progress. Some individuals paid huge amounts of money to examination agents and sometimes staff of the university in the quest to secure the 6 digit 2 letter matriculation code, but were left with sober reflections afterwards.

It was the beginning of a new life for Bayo, a tall dark skinned handsome guy who kept his afro clean, with his dark shades on sighting the well endowed ladies around campus, but one I believe will linger in his memory forever. It was barely two weeks after registration, the blood of a Jambite rich with red cells of beautiful ladies and plasma of regular clubbing began flowing through his veins, making his heart pump fun through his system. He was punctual in missing classes as g=he spent time with his friends, but was able to scoop the social award for the student with the best wardrobe at the departmental social awards night.

So soon, Bayo had forgotten the home he came from if only he had kept good company of friends he might have excelled in his 100 level. The first and second semester soon passed as the judgement day wasted no time to show his academic savings account statement: “You are hereby advised to withdraw from the university” was the most captivating sentence of that A4 paper carrying the faithful logo of the university, with the signature of the Registrar, showing a breakdown of his academic transactions through the year. It was more than an advice, he had simply been kicked out of the institution. He eagerly looked through the result of his other friends but was amazed I believe some few currents of shock would have passed through his spine to discover his friends knew their way better. He was on his own, he realized.

After the intervention and support from a family friend, he was offered another opportunity to change his programme from Microbiology to Agricultural Science. But refused it, stating he never saw himself being an Agricultural Scientist. I asked myself, who should have accepted farming or fishery instead if not him? I personally warned him, but the words I spoke were only sound waves that were reflected by his ear canal. He decided to start his university life again, forgetting the ‘god of Jamb’ gave only one chance. He has now written the Joint Admission Matriculation board exam four times since 2008 while his friends were among the graduating class of 2011.

I feel so sad that just like Bayo, many of us have lost our sense of purpose like a feather in the wind with no direction. Many people blame circumstances for their challenges in life, like Bayo who lost his mum at a tender age.

But we can also celebrate some individuals who lost both parents and some even from poor backgrounds and despite all odds still struggled to make a better life. Your challenging background should not be an excuse for failure, but a motivation for excellence. I have used several challenging times I faced as a young boy to inspire myself for greatness. Our future lies in our own hands. Some people today just like Bayo had great opportunities which could have put their names amongst the most successful people today but are full of regrets, they blew their golden chance. They sometimes sit in front of their TV showing their children their classmates who are currently excelling in various fields in life, they make mention of ministers, governors and business men who were their friends, while they managed nursing poverty. They have lost hope as age is no longer on their side, it has become too late for them – if only they had also taken the golden opportunity placed before them. My dear friend grab that opportunity now, have a clear mental picture of a preferable future, act fast and never give up. Your success in life is certain.

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Choose now while its not too late and grab your opportunities. Learn something from Bayo’s story and plan towards an achievable future. Follow Tola on twitter @tola_ade.

Happy new month!!!

E go better … But it starts with you


Nigeria!!! Because of so many unfortunate occurrences, we have been subjected to deep scrutiny by our fellow Nigerians.
Let me back up a little:

Set the stage. 1990’s thereabouts, I need a loan from the bank. I just walk in, drop my land documents as collateral, they approve the loan, I pay back and we’re done!! My documents are mine, your money is yours.

Set stage 2: 2012: Step through two security doors and a metal detector, get scanned at the inner door, apply for a loan with your land documents, land documents go through several screening processes over a period 3 months, comes back to you, loan denied!!!

So you see where I’m coming from. Due to the rising number of frauds and the fact that most of these institutions have had their fingers burned, they are being extra careful to the point of frustration. Suppose for instance you have your title documents and they somehow appear at a bank to serve as collateral for someone you had no idea existed!!! That’s how bad its gotten.

Today for instance, I went to apply as a volunteer worker somewhere and I was told that I couldn’t start immediately – Reason being that they had to check my background and all because these days they don’t know who is who with all that’s happening in the country. (This is by the way but I hope I’ll be able to post a day to day update of my volunteer experience – Diary of a volunteer worker. Details later!!!)
Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that there are serious issues at hand, yes, but we need to change. If the next person says A does it so I will, there will be no improvement. Do what is right not what is common. Some people are probably murmuring now that no matter what there will always be the fraudsters and I say ‘So what?’ Does it mean you have to be one? If everyone leaves the defrauding to someone else, won’t the rate decrease drastically or be ultimately non-existent?
This is a cry out to Nigerians!!! Do not be distracted by trivial issues. Look out for the bigger picture. Talk to the ‘man in the mirror’ and make a change!
A little change, you’d be surprised, goes a long way. So today, please please and please, decide to make a change for a positive Nigeria. We say Nigeria would be better but Nigeria is the people so let us be better for a better Nigeria!!

Its the end of May and the beginning of the last month in the first half of the year. Make a change before it is too late.
God bless Nigeria and God bless us all!!!
Enjoy the rest of your week and happy new month in advance!!!

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Love (even your enemies)!!!


I know I’ve talked about love and relationships quite a bit but this is different. This talks about unconditional love with SOLID scriptural backing – that is one of the many reasons I admire our next writer Godswork! Apart from that I like the fact that he tries his possible best to please God – wait for this – not when its convenient but ALL the time. Besides he’s an amazing writer … There’s a link to some more of his work at the end. Plus I absolutely ADORE his accent!!! 😀 Lol … Okay read!!!

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Don’t fight your enemies with hate and resentment, indifference and revenge; rather let your act of love and care for them, do the work for you.
It is now not a suprise why Jesus said ”Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you”, for now we know that by doing good to those who least deserve it, you heap coals of fire on their head. Suprised by your generosity, they will be ashamed of what they have done to you.
Truly speaking, it is annoying, painful, and hurting when you have people like that around you, that it seems reciprocal to hate back.But this is what the Lord says “vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord”.
Take some time to think about how the world will be when we all behave in one way-hating ourselves. Let’s learn to play our role, and leave God to finish the business. For this reason we should not  let evil get the best of us, but conquer evil by doing good. This might seem unrealistic, considering the fact that some people just like offending, and seemingly derive pleasure in coining evil from their heart. Clearly speaking on this, God said “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked”. so it appears that everyone is suited to work out or do evil and wickedness. But we who are in christ have received a new heart, as it is written,“And I will give you a new heart with new and right desires, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony heart of sin and give you a new, obedient heart.  And I will put my Spirit in you so you will obey my laws and do whatever I command”. For those who become Christians become new
persons. They are not the same anymore, for the old life is gone. A new life has begun. We don’t behave like the world,or copy its standards, but we are transformed daily to behave like God (by constantly renewing our mind with His word), who loves us no matter what,showing his unbeatable love by sending His only begotten son to die for us. Even when we reject him, He does not reject us, but still shower his love on us. God wants us to Love just like He would. He does this to show us an example, that when we love like Him, we live like Him.
When we love those who wrong us, we are  acting as true children of our Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and on the unjust, too. If you love only those who love you, what good is that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that. But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect .
Always know that God will not tell you to do what He has not done before, and that if He tells you to do anything He has already provided you with the power you need to fulfil that task.
Every action we take has a motive behind it, this motive shows the genuinety of your action.In line with this, we should love those that least deserve it, because God loved us and still loves us even though we least deserve it.
Truly speaking,God is the perfect definition of love, for God is love.
I admonish you to love, now not your enemies alone, but all that demands your love, especially loving the LORD your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might. And moreso you should love your neighbour as you would yourself.In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him.

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Here are some more notes from Godswork!!! Hope you enjoyed this as much as I did. And don’t be just a reader, take action!!! Go out and love today(yes even your enemies) – UNCONDITIONALLY!!!

Random Ish … What do you all think?


Listen up people! This is a just the tip of the iceberg … Just listen and learn and feel free to disagree!

So ladies …
1. Beauty attracts a guy but wisdom makes him stay.
2. Elegance catches his attention but intelligence convinces him.
3. Nagging irritates guys but ‘constructive silence’ weakens them.
4. The ‘boy’ in every man pumps out occasionally, your ability to handle this is your truest maturity.
5. Every guy has secret struggles and silent pains. Should you ever find them out, exhibit the greatest maturity.
6. In the long-run your ‘words’ matter more to a man than your ‘looks’. So start from now to invest the right words.
7. Earn a man’s respect and he will consider you the yard stick for all his actions.
8. Learn to mold the moods of your man.
9. Men will naturally give you their futures if they can recall your maturity in yesterday’s issues..
10. Women are every where but queens are scarce. Let the queen in you come alive and he will hold you in high esteem.

And guys …
1. Never start as ‘just friends’ with a lady you want to set p with … It would not go anywhere.
2. When she likes you she tries by all means to make some sort of contact … A pat, a touch or a hug!!!
3. Don’t assume every woman’s the same … Because Ann likes teddies doesn’t mean Rose likes them as well.
4. A girl would rather get a ‘Just thinking about you’ text than a two hour conversation where you guys don’t really say much …
5. Most times when you hurt her and she says ‘get out’, she really means ‘hold me close’
6. If she tries to change you too much, most likely you won’t be satisfied with her …
7. The little things you do matter most …
8. Give her space enough to be with her girls … Let her make the choice to be with you all the time 🙂
9. Do not be jealous of her male friends and start hoarding her. She chose you after all and it is so unattractive but a little jealousy doesn’t hurt once in a while 😉
10. Every lady likes to be told she looks good and she’s beautiful so NEVER hesitate to throw out a compliment!!!

That’s just from my point of view … Feel free add to this list. You just might save someone’s life … Lol!
Hope you enjoyed it!!!

Changing rooms or Different mirrors???


Its amazing how many times I say ‘I’ll get to it’ or ‘I’ll do it later’ in a day. And its not like I’m busy doing anything, I’m just being lazy … I’ve been ‘getting round’ to posting this blog for a while but I keep posting it. No pun intended.

Anyway, what’s been on my mind lately is one whole jungle of words and events … From family to friends to school and stuff like that. But basically all through one thing kept running through my mind … People change!!!

Half the time I’m trying to help others sort out their issues which is not a bad thing per se but when I find out that one of the parties involved has been playing me half the time, it gets personal on a whole other level. He had me believing that two of my very best friends had become very vicious animals but luckily for me, I went into the settlement with a very open mind.

Basically, we all say people change. I believe people change as well but when you assess the situations around you, do you really think it possible for everyone to have changed? Maybe its just you. You’ve become a better person so you have to make new lifestyle choices or you’ve joined the wrong set of people and all of a sudden your usual crowd just doesnt cut it – All in all, people dont change but you do! As paradoxical as it sounds, its true … Next time you feel like everyone around you’s changed, assess the situation and see but still all this is just in my opinion …