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I was one of the writers in a series @Achi_va (remember him?) started – 7 deadly sins.  Well, I wanna say thanks for all the love on INVIDIA and like I promised I’m back with part II! I just needed a little time so enjoy …

We know now that envy is borne of feelings of inferiority. We may have resolved not to be envious but still people around us envy us. It’s natural when you’re moving up for people to be envious of you in life. The question is ‘Are you attracting more envy than you need to?’ Take Joseph as an example. He had it going well for him. His father loved him to pieces and because of that his older brothers hated him. Don’t you think if Joseph had not been so arrogant about his dreams and toned down his attitude he would have been better off? They were sparks quite alright but he ignited their fire. You may not be in complete control over how people feel toward you but with loving attitudes and actions, you’ll feel a lot better about them.

Saul became David’s enemy because he was jealous of David’s success. The intriguing fact is that he wasn’t jealous because David killed the Philistine but because of the people’s song:

‘Saul has killed thousands,

And David his ten thousands’

1Samuel 18:7

He was so proud of his achievements that he didn’t believe there was room for anyone else. Pride also leads to jealousy because with pride no one is ‘allowed’ to be better than you. It didn’t just stop there and pass but he tried to get rid of David.

9 so from that time Saul kept a jealous eye on David. 10 (…) But Saul had a spear in his hand, 11 and he hurled it at David, intending to pin him to the wall.’

1Samuel 18

That’s where envy comes in. It creates suspicion, fear and perhaps some level of paranoia. Most people believe that at least when one gets to the top you have no reason to envy anyone. WRONG!!!


Leadership is an opportunity to serve God and others but even leaders want THE top job. Don’t blame it on the position you are. Aaron and Miriam were envious of Moses at some point though they were very important people among the Israelites. They criticised Moses about his Cushite wife but was it because of their love for God or their feelings of jealousy? Be careful of your motives when you do things!!!


‘Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important they are! But they are only comparing themselves with each other using themselves as the standard of measurement. How ignorant!’

2Cor 10:12

It’s basically simple. Rachael and Leah for example – they had more in common than a husband; they were sisters! It is common knowledge that Jacob loved Rachael more but due to the fact that she was so focused on what she didn’t have that her sister had, she became desperate and lost sight of that fact. Comparison leads to envy so beware of that. Again be content and adopt an attitude of gratitude!


For a generation that prides itself on being independent, we let the media do a whole lot of deciding for us. They tell us what to wear, what to eat, how to look, how to walk, even down to who the perfect guy/girl is. Pretend like you don’t follow the trend but you do one way or the other. Anyway, because people don’t have ‘WHAT IT TAKES’ according to the media’s standards, they become envious of those who do. Be happy that you are where you are. Jesus said it’s impossible for a rich person to enter heaven so maybe you just don’t have that thing because you would focus so much on it that you just might miss the main thing. When you’ve learnt to keep the main thing the main thing, then it’ll come!

People around you may influence your opinion as well. If you are always around someone who keeps putting you down, you start to believe you are that person they’ve made you to be and then it goes back to inferiority. Again there are characters you pick from your closest friends whether you like it or not and the tendency for y’all to hate on someone (especially girls) ‘just because’ is there.

Don’t get me wrong, looking at someone to motivate you is not being envious. You want to reach a certain level NOT pass a certain person. There’s nothing wrong with that. Again check your motives because the mind is a very powerful force. Your attitude determines your altitude – Envy keeps you down because you are planning someone’s downfall. You cannot pull someone down from the top of a ladder so you have to stay down to pull down.

It is not wrong to be rich or to be intelligent or to be confident about who you are – just don’t rub it in people’s faces and if you are not as …………… as you would like to be, work on yourself; just don’t hate on anyone else in the process.


8th July 2012

 Like we see in the image. we need to be careful how we treat people. If we’re lucky to get chances again and again, we shouldn’t abuse that privilege. Remember that chances are limited and no matter how patient a person is you can wear them thin. Be careful what you say to people as well because ‘ Words are like eggs. Once they are broken, they can’t be put back together’. Have a great week!

12th February 2012

“There are three people that want your heart – God, the devil and your friends. Choose today who you’ll give it to.”
– Bondess007™

We all know that we can only serve one master. Most people believe this is an unrealistic quote because we don’t have to lose friends to serve God. I agree with the latter but giving your heart to God means pleasing Him and He wants you to love your neighbours which include your friends. Its a win-win situation. God won’t force a choice on you – Its all up to you!!!

29th January 2012

“One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory”
– Rita Mae Brown

Hello everyone. Hope you’re having a great week so far (that’s just been a few hours though :D). This week, remember that it is necessary to forget. This is just to say that, sometimes we need to forget or give a back seat to some of our past experiences. We also need to learn to forgive people who’ve hurt us in the past. Forgiveness does not mean we should let our guard down completely and keep letting ourselves get hurt but it means we shouldn’t shut people out. So this week, try within reason to have a bad memory. Have a great week!!!

Life’s what you make it!!!

According to Hannah Montana, “Life’s what you make it so let’s make it rock.”
You decide what happens to you and how you react to situations not anyone else. Whatever happens in your life 95% of the time is as a result of your choices – your decisions and your decisions are always based on how you view life.
When the stakes are down, in the words of Mark Twain, “Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” We all know the story of the glass of water – the optimist sees it half full and the pessimist sees it half empty. So given the same ‘glass of water’, we can view it from two different angles.
W. Mitchell para phrased: “Its not what happens to you in life that matters, its what you do about it” so not to sound cliche but when life gives you lemons, make some lemonade.
To succeed in life you need to be proactive and take responsibility for your life. Stop playing the victim role all the time because being a victim means you react to situations around you and not create situations for your advancement in life. I read in a book that there are only a few things you can control ~ yourself, your attitude, your choices and your responses!!! Just four things but these can make all the difference in the world. Elaine Maxwell has rightly said that “Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force.”
In other words, don’t be a spectator in life. Look for situations you need and if you can’t find them, create them. Don’t let things ‘happen’ to you. Go out and ‘happen’ to things! Sometimes while you’re so busy being either the pessimist, the optimist or the realist, the opportunist grabs what’s in front of you all and moves on.
One last thing – A friend recently brought this to my attention: Psalm 23:5 “Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of my enemies ….” not the verse but his interpretation of the verse. He believes that from this statement, he needs his enemies for God to promote him. That’s just to say that his enemies are not there to bring him down but because they are there, its an ‘excuse’ for God to send him extra blessings. That’s what I’d call positive thinking.
– Bondess007™


Check out Glass Half Full or Half Empty as well!