Today’s writer is another talented young lady who I stumbled across. I saw one piece of hers and I had to go looking for more and I was really impressed so when this came up, I decided that you guys needed to hear her too. She is @deaduramilade and she blogs at Out of My Head. Here’s her take on 21st Century Fairytale …
Fairytales are fun. They make you feel good and fluffy inside. You can find your “Prince Charming” and have your happy ending. Your “happily ever after”.
Everyone believes in love and fairytales and happily ever afters. That’s why even after a terrible relationship or a date that doesn’t work out, you still put yourself out there and keep on going on crappy dates until you find your special someone.
Girls will deny it but deep down we wouldn’t mind a Prince Charming, or a knight-in-shining-amour, who’ll rescue us from the evil stepmother or break the curse. And climb a thousand mountains and cross a hundred seas just to be with us.
Guys would say no, but really they want to swoop in and be the hero who slays the fire breathing dragon and saves the damsel-in-distress.
But fairytales are just that: fairytales.
In reality, there are no happily ever afters and you don’t get to be a hero. There’s no love at first sight.
You meet someone and you’re first attracted to the person. You go on dates and learn about each other. You decide that from everything you’ve seen, this person is worth more of your time. But you know they’re not perfect so you live with it because at the end, this person makes you happy.
So our 21st Century Fairytale isn’t random, the-stars-aligned-and-we-belong-together. It’s a conscious decision. You decide to be with someone after a series of dates and all that pizzazz. You want this person with you, by your side – warts and all – regardless of the doubts you have that you’re not good enough for her; or he’s too good for you.
After that, you decide that you’re going to stick with this person and work through whatever issues that come up/
You accept that you’re vulnerable with this person. And you want to be able to share yourself with them.
And that’s how you create your happy ever after.
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