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To her Lover…

This was written by Ijeoma Unachukwu, one of the smartest people I know and soon to be oga the law! She amazes me with the amount of energy she has and when I read this about a year ago, I knew I had to put it up so cheers to all of you – This is from IJ!!
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Who says ‘I love you’ first? – Day 11

Today’s random love thought is  by another amazing RANDOM writer. Someone (my mum X_X) told me to check out the blog and I saw a great piece for Love One Four so enjoy! Visit the website as well, its amazing!

P.S. Its another boss who has left blogging for the small children like me *sigh*

Love One-Four

I’m not sure how this applies in the Nigerian dating culture and I would be glad if someone enlightens me but I know in the western world, saying “I Love You” for the first time is a really big deal, I mean a huge deal in relationships and I’ve never really understood why people place so much emphasis on who says it first, how soon you say it and even where you say it. Now, I know this affects men and women in different ways so I’ll address the both angels.
Ladies First…
So here comes Angela and Segun who have been dating for 5 months and Segun is yet to say the three magic words. Angela starts to panic, “.. does he love me..? … should I say it first..? maybe he’s too shy to say it..? .. Oh God, he’s seeing another girl….” All these and even worse are the thoughts in Angela’s head. So what should she do?
Here is Segun, enjoying the relationship that he has going with Angela. Everything thing seems to be going well and he really does care about her but he is not yet at the commitment stage. One day, they are on a romantic date when Angela tells Segun “…babe, I have something I’ve been wanting to tell you..” (Segun begins to think.. Oh Oh….)

Angela: “Babe, I want you to know that I love you…”
Segun: Oh! .. **awkward silence**

Angela feels hurt that Segun did not say it back while Segun is scared that he’s now in trouble and the

relationship just got complicated.

See what I mean? Way too much complication. We attached unnecessary value to irrelevancies in our relationships. Who says I love you first is irrelevant and has nothing to do with the success of a relationship. You know why? Because people lie! All the time! What if Segun says “I love you too..” but he really doesn’t? People can say and do anything just to get what they want and to please the other party. Saying I love you these days is not a guarantee of anything. So stop complicating issues and just go with it. On the other hand, what if Segun starts acting like the sun rises and sets on his behind all because Angela said the words first?

Someone once said that whoever says “I love you” first in the relationship is in the weakest link. DogShit! That’s a whole load of crap that people just feed you without even understanding your own scenario. You have to understand that relationships vary from person to person. What works for A is not necessarily going to work for B. So don’t run your relationship the same way Sade does hers, you’ll only get one result: disaster!

Here’s what I think, it’s not even an issue; just say it! If you are convinced enough that you feel that strongly for that person then just say it. You can only get three responses:
(1) I love you too,
(2) The person is almost at the same place with you, and
(3) the person doesn’t love you now, and isn’t going to any time soon.
Based on whatever the response you get is, just keep on moving. And even if he/she says it back, talk is cheap. It’s the person’s actions towards you that will tell you whether he/she really does love you or not. But either way, stop treating your relationship with some 12 steps that you read in a book and attaching meaning to who says it first because if you are both meant to be together, such things would be irrelevant.

Most importantly, If you love someone, just tell them because today is given but tomorrow is not guaranteed

Tomorrow, Love One Four continues with ‘So whats the point of Love’ by Nkechi! Bye guys 😀

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Valentine’s Day and Love – Day 7

So like I promised, here’s Valentine’s day and love by @Esty_prinon. Hope your val’s day is going great!

Love One-Four

The day was almost over and I sat in my chair, reflecting on what I had experienced during the day; it didn’t seem like a very nice experience to me.
On that Thursday morning, the sun was shining, the flowers were looking bright, birds were singing love songs. I saw a young man hand flowers to a lady;
Later in the afternoon a couple were having lunch at The Choicest Restaurant. There was even a party at the senator’s house where everyone ate, drank and exchanged presents. “It was really valentine’s day”, I had thought.
But that man, the beggar who held out his arm to the woman dressed in a corporate suit was hoping to get something little, perhaps something to sustain him for the day. Why did she ignore him? There was a lonely child walking the streets; why couldn’t anybody talk to him?
What about the children in the orphanages, seeking to be loved and longing for someone to come and make them part of a family?
The prisoners stand locked up in cells, thinking everybody hates them and wishing for freedom to live among the rest of the world again.

Is Valentine’s day meant for lovers alone? – Certainly not!  It’s not only the people we know and see on a daily basis that deserve to be loved. There are people who are being hurt, abused; who suffer, pleading for help in one area or the other, yet what are we doing about it?
People it’s Valentine’s! Enjoy the day, have fun, spend time with your loved ones but also, PLEASE don’t forget to reach out to one person or two with a word of encouragement, a little gift or a song. Visit the prisoners and less privileged. Pray for people who are hurting . Do something that doesn’t happen usually. In just anyway you can make a person feel loved, make an effort. Do not love only those who love you and are close to you.
Make people happy today; Spread Love in the air, everywhere you go and make the day worth its name! 😀 ❤
Check this love song out!
Happy Valentine’s Day!!

(P.S. For the song lyrics click here!)

Here’s more from Esther – Notes! Till tomorrow 😀