New Year Announcement

Happy new year guys!!!  It’s been so long and I have missed you. It’s not been for lack of what to say but not enough time to pen stuff down so unfortunately this serves as an official recess notice so that we can take time out and restructure the blog and so I won’t have to apologize all the time 🙈 but I promise that by June you’ll see something in this space. 😘

Anyway, it’s not all bad!!  Guess what? Ganaijachic was nominated for ‘The Mystery Blogger Award’!


So shout-out first to FemaleIgboArchitect for the nomination (Go check her out guys!!). Thanks a lot, I’m excited to be a part of this. Second shout out to the creator of the award for seeking out hidden blogs by force and creating a community where we’re having fun and encouraging one another 😃

“Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion.
Okoto Enigma  (Creator) 


So here are the rules:

  1. Put the award logo/image on your blog
  2. List the rules.
  3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
  5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
  6. You have to nominate 10 – 20 people
  7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
  8. Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify)
  9. Share a link to your best post(s)

So 1, 2, 3, 4 – ☑

Next three things about me….  Hmm!

I can be very outspoken but also extremely shy…

I use only black eye pencils and love red lipstick.

My top three go-to (or is it go-tos?)   – God, family, music! 😍

I’ll answer my 5 questions in a bit but first I nominate:




Eva Diaries

The Free Tribe


Nwamaka Ogbonna




Chukwunomnso Diali


Okay so here goes:

Q: Why did you start blogging?

A: To express myself!

Q: Has there ever been a really good post you made that got really disappointing feedback?

A: Yeah I’m pretty sure there has. I just can’t pick one out right now.

Q: How often do you read?

A: Not as much as I used to maybe once in three months now and I mean an actual book!

Q: What’s the greatest limitation you have as a blogger?

A: Time really!  Trying to balance school time and family time and blogging time and extra time and every kind of time in between!

Q: Weird question: Fufu or Garri?

A: Definitely fufu! But as for whether it’s Ghana or Naija fufu …  😅

So my five questions:

1) Weird Question: If I appeared right in front of you right now, what would your first word be?

2) Favourite song at the moment and why?

3) What are your ‘can’t do without’ items?

4) One word that describes you.

5) What’s your blogging motivation?

And finally to the hardest part – I really can’t choose but here we go:

Technical Virgin

Super Mario

Welcome to my Lagos

Your Word, Your Bond

To Bae or Not To Bae

Guest Write-Ins

Arrgh! I can’t choose just a few but I had to sneak in guest write-ins 😜  Is your favorite up there? Let me know in the comments section.

Off to do number 7!



Me You Us

I was writing a post on the Buhari wars and I still haven’t finished it.  Please pray for me and this procrastination problem!  *covers face* In the mean time,  here’s a little something I wrote on ensuring relationship security! Enjoy!  😊

Security is a pretty tricky word. it means making something safe, free from theft or harm or simply that something is assured or guaranteed – in layman’s terms. According to the dictionary, security is simply a state of not being threatened. Now ensuring relationship security is a pretty sensitive issue to tackle because personally I believe there’s only so much we can do as humans to ‘ensure’ anything so I’ll try my best.
No one wants to suffer heartbreak yeah? So here are a few tips I’ve picked up over time: It’s ME YOU US

M – Make Boundaries
At the beginning of any relationship, one needs to clearly define the boundaries and not leave anything to chance. It’s not enough to say ‘No sex’. You need to discuss things like kissing and being alone in a room even in a house that isn’t empty and whether it’s allowed or not. So set clear boundaries…

E – Enjoy the process
Don’t rush into relationships. Enjoy the friendship and getting to know each other with no strings attached. It is more likely that if you rush in, you’ll rush out. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t define a relationship but even if both of you know where it’s headed, enjoy the friendship.
Y – Your individuality matters
I can’t stress enough how important it is to have a life outside your relationship. For people that have other friends and other hobbies outside their partners, it’s easier to move on even if things eventually don’t work out between you two because you have other things to focus on that don’t necessarily remind you of them. Also it reduces pressure on the other person – because they aren’t the sole focus of your life.

O – Observe relations
This is crucial! Observe the way the other person relates with people that are not you. Subconsciously as humans, we are nicer to people we like and people we want to get something from. So, observe how they treat their siblings, their colleagues at work, friends, classmates, strangers and even their parents. This helps you know understand their value system a little better so you’re not too ‘in love’ before you notice!
U – Unallowed – Physical intimacy!
You don’t need to prove your love by sleeping together. If that was the case, you would need to sleep with your parents and siblings and friends and a host of other people you’ve cared about at one point or the other. It’s harder to see clearly once sex is involved. One party keeps making excuses for the other no matter the glaring faults and eventually ends up heart broken. It is more than a physical something but that’s story for another day!

U – Understand the importance of warning signs
There usually are signs about a person’s character even when they try to hide it – slips of tongue, deflections, stories people are telling you. Now I’d like to say at this point that it doesn’t mean you should look for those signs but that if something is recurring you should confront it. That way you won’t have need to say ‘Had I Known’

Lastly S – Sensitivity to the Spirit.
Even after all these, sometimes the relationship may not work. You should pray before you go into a relationship but even at that you need Tobe sensitive I the relationship. There are times we hear God tell us, to do something but just like Abraham, we need to be sensitive enough in case He tells us to stop. This may not happen a lot especially in relationships but sensitivity to the spirit is still very key!
It’s a long one but I hope I’ve been able to condense my thoughts into a simple form for you to understand. Remember MEYOUUS can only do so much but God is the ultimate security.

The Unholy Courtship

You know how our parents (most of us) always all came first in their classes? Well, Christians most time in the same way, usually just sweep their mistakes under the rug and everyone is always just at a ‘We thank God’ or ‘By God’s Grace’ phase.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not wrong but we can’t keep piling trash under the rug – one day it’s gonna trip us and we’re gonna fall real bad. So deal with your issues today and don’t be ashamed to accept responsibility for your sin not excuse it.

Anyway, just read this piece below. It blessed me, hope it blesses you too!!!

Kingdom Business

When I became saved I decided that I wouldn’t kiss my husband until my wedding day. Personally, I was Christ’s bride and therefore kissing my husband was a privilege kept only for marriage when God handed me over. When I met my potential life partner I was so deeply in love with God that I even asked him to cease all communication with me for 7 months so that I could concentrate on Jesus and deepen in my intimacy with Him. After 5 months we felt it was sufficient to speak again and pursue a pure and Godly courtship,
so we thought.

The problem was that because of how we had prioritised God whilst we were single, our flesh now prided itselfon the idea that we were now invincible from falling. We convinced ourselves that we were so intimate with God that nothing could trip us up…

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Love One-Four Extra

‘And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love’


First off, I want to say a giant thank you to all our Love 14 writers – Thanks for tolerating my hounding and for sending your posts in time so I wasn’t left hanging and we didn’t have a vacant day space. God bless you all real good … For those that missed it, there’s a link to every post here. Just click on a quote and you’ll be transported to another ‘Love Kingdom’.

The quote images featured all through the series are on the facebook page – Ganaija. Go like it and share, share, share!!! One more thing, please do subscribe to the blog before you leave (follow blog via email). It will take only a few seconds – enter your email address in the box on the left (if you’re on a computer) or below this post (on a mobile device). Here are the highlights!

The consequences of loving varies across board and lines of experience. Some people have a “Cinderella” kind of story to tell, while others can easily relate to a full epistle of how Cynthia was stood up at the airport in her wedding gown for a husband that never showed up! Such is life.


We all know kindness is about giving but trust me – human kindness always has a limit but God’s kindness doesn’t.


Love does not wish that yours was his, or hers was yours, or his wasn’t his.
Love does not envy, because love understands the truth
That what’s mine is ultimately yours, and what’s yours is mine.


There is no point being in a relationship with someone if they have proven over and over that they cannot be trusted because “love – trust = frustration & unfulfillment”. The only way we can totally free our significant other to love us unconditionally is by giving him/her our trust.


After all, the greatest commandment is to love God with all your soul, heart and mind, so why not prove your love to him by living to bring honour and not dishonour to his name


When you are about taking the easy way out
Just remember – He could have done the same
But for your sake and mine he bore the shame
True love endures hard times


Whenever I hear these statements “Do you know how much I love you or do you know what I have done for him/her?”… it gets me thinking and I begin to ask myself what is love all about?


Love is a seed that grows, how beautiful it’s tree;
it feeds the needy and is a shelter for the storm, for it dances through the winds and waves but still stands strong, sitting beautifully in its roots. 


Samuel took him in his arms and Armand said, “I told the other kids not to worry because you told me that you’d always be there for me!”
Fourteen children were saved that day because ONE father was faithful.


The protective nature of love always helps us to feel at peace and guarded. We know that we are never alone. We know that our steps are ordered by the Lord.


But what happened when the prodigal son saw himself as he truly was – worthless without his father and unworthy to be called son? He was welcomed in grand style by his father.


Does this mean I am capable of forgiving and forgetting all the time?
No. I’m not. I’m a work in progress. By His grace, I’ll get there.
And you too can be a work in progress, who says you can’t be a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously???? Who??


And when you finally seek Need…
I am Found… I have always been here… Remember I will always be with YOU.
So I definitely do not fail…
Because I AM…


“Realize that everyone needs something and focus on meeting the other person’s needs instead of waiting for your own needs to be met”. This is the definition of selflessness.


I can’t end this without appreciating all of you who read, commented and liked posts during this series – thanks for encouraging me and encouraging the writers. I love you Ganaija fam!!!

Loads of kisses because

‘’Love never fails.’’


Love One-Four 16.13

In case you missed the last posts:

Love is Patient

Love Is Kind

Love does not envy

Love does not boast

Love is not proud

Love does not dishonor others

Love is not self-seeking

Love is not easily angered

Love keeps no record of wrongs

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth

Love always protects

Love always trusts

‘… always hopes …’

We’re almost at the end!!! Today’s piece is by another special friend of mine. He’s one of my mentors and one of my biggest encourage-rs. Let me publicly acknowledge you and appreciate what you do behind the scenes – Thank you!!! You can follow him on Facebook (Frank Oje) for daily posts – little tidbits that can get you through the day or week or even the whole month!




Before we dive in, I want to send a shout out to my grandpa too!!! 😀 Happy birthday!!!! (even though I highly doubt he’s reading this 🙂 ) Anyway Ganaija fam, its Frank Oje with ‘Love always hopes’!

Love is a beautiful thing, no matter how you feel, in spite of whatever has happened to you. Let’s not change it! haha! Did I hit you below the belt? Before you bite me, just listen and read a few more lines, please? :P-)

The consequences of loving varies across board and lines of experience. Some people have a “Cinderella” kind of story to tell, while others can easily relate to a full epistle of how Cynthia was stood up at the airport in her wedding gown for a husband that never showed up! Such is life.

Recently I found a woman I would like to marry (again) and I thought it wise not let my mum know yet (for the umpteenth time), so it doesn’t look like I enjoy dashing her hopes. But when I went to visit her, I could only hide my feeling for a few hours (or minutes maybe?) before I started spilling -like when you open a pretty excited Coca-Cola bottle. Yeah, Love is one of such feelings that really can’t be hidden or contained for too long! You can’t buy a dream car and park it in the garage for a week. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. I was only trying to explain why I had to worship in another church the previous Sunday when I found myself “jumping tracks” in my schematics. Lol.



Contrariwise, while my mum was dancing in jubilation that her prayers have been answered, my talkative brother quickly reminded her; “mama, don’t be too happy yet, this could be like one of such days when we hoped that love had finally come but at the end, it was dashed.  But mum rebuked him and said; leave me and let me be happy. It doesn’t matter how long it lasts if it keeps hope alive. Moreover, faith is the evidence of things hoped for… which means without hope, faith has no stand! In other words, there is a connection between faith and hope and that connection is an “evidence” that ensures that whatever you have faith in, you must hope for. It suffices to say that; whatever love battle you may have seemingly lost as a result of failed expectations, you didn’t fail. It could be destiny’s path to true love, a fail forward process to the real thing (sometimes, for reasons best known to God). 

Does true love really hurt? You may want to ask. Yes it does sometimes a lot of times. Hurting on the cross (for our sakes), God, who so loved the world, felt it too. They say ‘Its people who you love that hurts you the most’. Or, it’s a ‘thing’ you love that you repeatedly go through pains to have (is labour pain flying through your mind? like right now? 🙂 ) Well, at the end “LOVE CONQUERS ALL”. So why should we continue to love amidst mixed feelings or expectations? Hmmm, because ‘HOPE’ comes with the package! Just like ‘Faith’, we have hope that sooner or later, our expectations will be met. Love always hopes. If it appears to be failing, try plugging in some more hopes. It may not result in your ‘immediate or most desired expectation when applied to humans, just remember; Even God who is love, has set before you; life and death, and He is expecting, advising and ‘hoping’ that you choose LIFE! But for free will’s sake, He can only hope!



I remember in secondary school when I told a friend I was afraid to love so I didn’t get my heart broken – He said ‘Don’t worry the next person will mend it’. I couldn’t have said it better myself – KeepHopeAlive!!! Head over to facebook and like the Ganaija page. Tomorrow’s our last guest write-in for Love One-Four. I’m excited!!!

‘’Love never fails.’’