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Too late for happy new year?

And it’s official – We’re back up!!!

*in my super excited voice*

Hi guys!!! It’s been soooooo long! I originally titled this post ‘Happy New Year’. Some people might say its too late but ‘Is it your new year?’.

Happy NEW Year Ganaija fam!!!

Anyway, I’m back! Some of you might have noticed that we’ve changed the blog interface a bit. This was intentional. I’ve been undergoing personal restructuring and so the blog had to undergo  some restructuring as well. Don’t worry, your favourite posts are all still intact; just one click away in the Archives or you can search in the box on your right.

Book Reviews and former pages are right up there in the “Chilling With Shay’ tab. The reviews would take a slightly different format now so a new Book Review tab would pop up soon.

Let’s talk a bit about the new look:

Tabs –
Book of the Month: I’ll put up a book I’m reading every month so we can read together. Feel free to drop parts of the book that blessed you or stuck out for you. Feel free to ask questions based on what you’re reading. At the end of the month, let’s review it together before we pick up the next book. I hope you’re as excited as I am. More details on that page.

Daily Thoughts: These are some of my daily reflections from a devotional post that would be posted here. We’ll begin in March. I’ll upload the devotional so you can use it even when you’re offline but we’d have the post for that day clearly displayed here.

Chilling With Shay: Previous pages like Dear Dr Love, My Volunteer’s Diary and so on can be found under this tab. They are still there – we just needed to do a little home cleaning to keep everything nice and neat.

Poetry Corner: The name says it all. Its simply poetry from my heart to my pen.

In other News: Whatever it is that’s coming next or something I’m up to that I’d like to share. Just keep stopping by here. it would be random things really.


Life from my point of view is really life as I see it from wherever I am privileged to stand. I might make mistakes sometimes but I’m learning daily and I’d like you to journey with me. We’d still have guest write ins from time to time and your comments are highly appreciated so don’t be shy to drop them.

Once again, thank you to all the old subscribers for staying consistent and always viewing posts. Thank you to all the new subscribers for allowing me to disturb your mail box on Sundays. Thank you to all unsubscribed visitors because I know you’re clicking subscribe now … 😀

Love Always,








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New Year Announcement

Happy new year guys!!!  It’s been so long and I have missed you. It’s not been for lack of what to say but not enough time to pen stuff down so unfortunately this serves as an official recess notice so that we can take time out and restructure the blog and so I won’t have to apologize all the time 🙈 but I promise that by June you’ll see something in this space. 😘

Anyway, it’s not all bad!!  Guess what? Ganaijachic was nominated for ‘The Mystery Blogger Award’!


So shout-out first to FemaleIgboArchitect for the nomination (Go check her out guys!!). Thanks a lot, I’m excited to be a part of this. Second shout out to the creator of the award for seeking out hidden blogs by force and creating a community where we’re having fun and encouraging one another 😃

“Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion.
Okoto Enigma  (Creator) 


So here are the rules:

  1. Put the award logo/image on your blog
  2. List the rules.
  3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
  5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
  6. You have to nominate 10 – 20 people
  7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
  8. Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify)
  9. Share a link to your best post(s)

So 1, 2, 3, 4 – ☑

Next three things about me….  Hmm!

I can be very outspoken but also extremely shy…

I use only black eye pencils and love red lipstick.

My top three go-to (or is it go-tos?)   – God, family, music! 😍

I’ll answer my 5 questions in a bit but first I nominate:




Eva Diaries

The Free Tribe


Nwamaka Ogbonna




Chukwunomnso Diali


Okay so here goes:

Q: Why did you start blogging?

A: To express myself!

Q: Has there ever been a really good post you made that got really disappointing feedback?

A: Yeah I’m pretty sure there has. I just can’t pick one out right now.

Q: How often do you read?

A: Not as much as I used to maybe once in three months now and I mean an actual book!

Q: What’s the greatest limitation you have as a blogger?

A: Time really!  Trying to balance school time and family time and blogging time and extra time and every kind of time in between!

Q: Weird question: Fufu or Garri?

A: Definitely fufu! But as for whether it’s Ghana or Naija fufu …  😅

So my five questions:

1) Weird Question: If I appeared right in front of you right now, what would your first word be?

2) Favourite song at the moment and why?

3) What are your ‘can’t do without’ items?

4) One word that describes you.

5) What’s your blogging motivation?

And finally to the hardest part – I really can’t choose but here we go:

Technical Virgin

Super Mario

Welcome to my Lagos

Your Word, Your Bond

To Bae or Not To Bae

Guest Write-Ins

Arrgh! I can’t choose just a few but I had to sneak in guest write-ins 😜  Is your favorite up there? Let me know in the comments section.

Off to do number 7!


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Me You Us

I was writing a post on the Buhari wars and I still haven’t finished it.  Please pray for me and this procrastination problem!  *covers face* In the mean time,  here’s a little something I wrote on ensuring relationship security! Enjoy!  😊

Security is a pretty tricky word. it means making something safe, free from theft or harm or simply that something is assured or guaranteed – in layman’s terms. According to the dictionary, security is simply a state of not being threatened. Now ensuring relationship security is a pretty sensitive issue to tackle because personally I believe there’s only so much we can do as humans to ‘ensure’ anything so I’ll try my best.
No one wants to suffer heartbreak yeah? So here are a few tips I’ve picked up over time: It’s ME YOU US

M – Make Boundaries
At the beginning of any relationship, one needs to clearly define the boundaries and not leave anything to chance. It’s not enough to say ‘No sex’. You need to discuss things like kissing and being alone in a room even in a house that isn’t empty and whether it’s allowed or not. So set clear boundaries…

E – Enjoy the process
Don’t rush into relationships. Enjoy the friendship and getting to know each other with no strings attached. It is more likely that if you rush in, you’ll rush out. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t define a relationship but even if both of you know where it’s headed, enjoy the friendship.
Y – Your individuality matters
I can’t stress enough how important it is to have a life outside your relationship. For people that have other friends and other hobbies outside their partners, it’s easier to move on even if things eventually don’t work out between you two because you have other things to focus on that don’t necessarily remind you of them. Also it reduces pressure on the other person – because they aren’t the sole focus of your life.

O – Observe relations
This is crucial! Observe the way the other person relates with people that are not you. Subconsciously as humans, we are nicer to people we like and people we want to get something from. So, observe how they treat their siblings, their colleagues at work, friends, classmates, strangers and even their parents. This helps you know understand their value system a little better so you’re not too ‘in love’ before you notice!
U – Unallowed – Physical intimacy!
You don’t need to prove your love by sleeping together. If that was the case, you would need to sleep with your parents and siblings and friends and a host of other people you’ve cared about at one point or the other. It’s harder to see clearly once sex is involved. One party keeps making excuses for the other no matter the glaring faults and eventually ends up heart broken. It is more than a physical something but that’s story for another day!

U – Understand the importance of warning signs
There usually are signs about a person’s character even when they try to hide it – slips of tongue, deflections, stories people are telling you. Now I’d like to say at this point that it doesn’t mean you should look for those signs but that if something is recurring you should confront it. That way you won’t have need to say ‘Had I Known’

Lastly S – Sensitivity to the Spirit.
Even after all these, sometimes the relationship may not work. You should pray before you go into a relationship but even at that you need Tobe sensitive I the relationship. There are times we hear God tell us, to do something but just like Abraham, we need to be sensitive enough in case He tells us to stop. This may not happen a lot especially in relationships but sensitivity to the spirit is still very key!
It’s a long one but I hope I’ve been able to condense my thoughts into a simple form for you to understand. Remember MEYOUUS can only do so much but God is the ultimate security.